"News Flash" Advice
"News Flash" Advice
I'm just curious. Nothing is really happening with me at the moment concerning xnh. Supposedly he's out of town until after the New Year, so I don't even have to deal with hearing his voice at work (Thank GOD). However, I'm just wondering what you guys think is the most diplomatic way to deal with unwanted "news flashes" about the narc and/or his relatives.
I live in a very small town, and since the divorce, I frequently get unasked for and unwanted "news flashes" about xnh and his P daughter. The latest unwanted "update" being a co-worker announcing to me that she'd seen xnh and his horrible P daughter at the doctor's office getting her sonogram, and the P daughter is having a girl (like I actually care, or even want to know this).
My initial temptation was to spout out, "I don't really care if she's popping out an armadillo with two heads. Hopefully, it will come out sideways and hurt a lot." This probably would not have been a very diplomatic response to my co-worker. I've sometimes been told that I'm too blunt. lol. What I actually did say was, "I'm REALLY not interested." and then immediately changed the topic.
Another example that I frequently get is, "So how is xnh doing?". My initial temptation is to blurt out, "I don't KNOW. We're divorced. I hope xnh's crotch turns black and bursts into flames while he's screwing OW." I suppose, as satisfying as it might be to say this, it once again, isn't considered very courteous.
So I'm just curious, how do you guys tactfully divert others, whom really don't know that well, from asking about the narc and his relatives? How do you respond to these questions?
I understand that these people usually have no clue how much I REALLY don't want to hear anything about xnh ever again. However, the frequent questions sometimes feel like a constant barrage to me. In this little town, even the cashier at the grocery store might blurt something out. I'm finding the frequent "news flashes" both painful and irritating. Any suggestions?
Appeal to people's sympathy.
Small town living
A suggested response