The worst thing he said to you

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July 2, 2010 - 12:13pm (Reply to #78)
querida
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are you serious? *sigh* I

are you serious? *sigh* I hate hearing stories like that about people who (say that they) have been called to ministry. It just sours people to church and Christianity. I don't wish hell on my NH, I just NEVER want to see or speak or deal with him again. I just want him out of my life for the rest of MY life. He also told me: He has more integrity than my father WRONG I am so selfish, so prideful, and a pathological liar CAN YOU SAY PROJECTION? I don't know how to be a biblical wife and be led by my husband. WASN'T AWARE HE WANTED A DOORMAT WIFE, I THOUGHT WE WERE GOING TO BE PARTNERS IN LIFE, SUPPORTING EACH OTHER He doesn't know who I am praying to anyway. (To my God, not my demi-God husband!) If I would just make a total heart and mind change, he would consider coming back. He couldn't remember one thing he liked about me when prompted in front of our minister-counselor. All this after less than one year of marriage, folks
June 28, 2010 - 11:26pm (Reply to #76)
lynn61
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thank you

i really appreciated you sharing querda. your story sounds much like mine. i am hoping like you to eventually share my story on the site. for now the board has been incredibly therapeutic for me as i am walking through a divorce after over 28 years of marriage to what i am becoming to believe is a N.

really??

June 28, 2010 - 2:00am (Reply to #75)
NancyM
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querida

Just to add to your last post about not posting your story, you have been heavily punished obviously, for confiding in anyone, but please know that you are in a safe place here to tell.

Nevergoback

June 27, 2010 - 8:32pm (Reply to #74)
NancyM
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querida

Hi querida, it is hard for some of us to tell our story but I think it is something we should do as it helps us sort out what really went on. I have not told my story yet either but I am finding by posting a lot more I am getting more motivated to tell it. As you have been reading on the board, we always get blamed for the end of the relationship, regardless of how it occurred. Feel free to ask questions if you have not already read something you want to know because there are plenty of people here that will be able to relate in one way or another. If he is an N, and from your description it sure sounds like he is, then no amount of help will change him. Try posting a bit more, it can be very validating to have others relate directly to your experience. Everyone here knows how it feels to have been through an experience such as this. Are you in counseling or therapy of some kind? It is virtually impossible to get through this on your own. (((HUGS))) to you, we know how lonely and confusing it can be.

Nevergoback

June 27, 2010 - 8:29am
helldweller
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The worst thing he said

He called my daughters "trash." They are seven and ten, they are the loveliest, kindest, most loving children in the world. They have straight As in one of the best schools in our huge city. They are in Sunday school at 8am every Sunday morning, love to cook and bake and read Nancy Drew and listen to jazz. The N's foster child is raised by the next door neighbor because the N doesn't know anything about children, and the babysitter is sleeping with the N's married brother. The child's mother is a heroin addict and a prostitute. The N takes him to bars and women's houses until ten, eleven, twelve oclock every night and they sleep until ten every day. But MY daughters are trash.
July 30, 2010 - 4:22pm (Reply to #70)
sweetsamm
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I'm so sad thinking about

I'm so sad thinking about it,but my ex called my son a loser,fat,retard........what kind of man says these things about a 7yr old boy?? He'd call him a mama's boy,who's still sucking on his mommy's nipple...i would tell my son to ignore it,and say it was because he was drinking...my ex's mom left his dad and him when he was 9,and took her other 2children with her...i'm sure my ex was jealous of me always loving and being there for my son.....i finally left the jerk when my son was 17,the damage has been done,and i don't think i'll ever forgive myself for staying so long..and btw,my son is thin,handsome,and smart...:)
July 1, 2010 - 3:45pm (Reply to #69)
ewa
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He knew that he will hurt

He knew that he will hurt you strong saying this about your kids. That is why he called them this way when he wanted to really hurt you. He only meant to hurt you, i don't think he thinks your daughters are trash.
July 1, 2010 - 10:56am (Reply to #68)
calamity-g
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the worst thing he said RE: --"he called my daughters trash

helldweller-- hi. After reading the many 'worst things,' all of which I could relate to, some of which were nearly the same words I've heard, I saw your post and have to say I'm sorry. I mean all of these things narcissists say are nasty and cruel. And I'm sorry that any and all of us had to endure this kind of sick sick evil in our lives. And Lisa is right, they envy people who feel love, or feel anything for that matter. And who more than 'lovely children' are innocent and filled with love? Calling young children (or any age child I think) trash, really no matter what those children do with their time, (because the way they spend their time is up to the parents) is... I am stopped for words. I think it reflects what a dumbf*** that guy is. A total loser. But then they are all losers. I guess I just wanted to say I'm sorry you had to hear that! ~~~~~~~~ My Blog

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June 26, 2010 - 11:18pm
Amy
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hmmm.... so many!

In the last 3 months since we have been engaged: In Vegas 2 days after we got engaged, I asked if he knew someone I knew in the area (sounded like the same person). He took me out of the bar, started berating me, saying "I can't f*cking take you anywhere! Everyone in the area knows you as a f*cking alcoholic party girl!" I slept in the bathroom, scared to death. The next morning he BEGGED me not to tell anyone he did that, and said he didn't know why he did things like that.... When I was crying because I was worried that my dad was having surgery for prostate cancer, he told me he "didn't feel sorry for me" and that I was "handling things wrong". After we fought because I looked at his OnePass account, he told me if I had a job he'd have left me already. Then he said I "didn't know my place" and his mom knew her place and his dad would have kicked her out if she pulled a stunt like that (his father would be appalled if he knew how his son was treating me). He accused me of looking for the guy I was dating before when I went to dinner with a girlfriend. Told me I was LUCKY that the company I interviewed with liked me because I was "drinking" before my interview. I went and met friends the night before and had 1 drink. I was home by 7:20. Upon learning that the job I got would have me office-ing from home, he told me I have no discipline and that I am not a self starter! He said I lost my job in March because I was out drinking with my new boyfriend all the time. He made me e-bay all the clothes my new boyfriend had bought me, and made me give back the sunglasses and $5k watch he bought me (which made the guy feel greeeeaat.) It goes on and on.... 3 MONTHS!
June 28, 2010 - 12:33pm (Reply to #66)
rainbow1
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I have a Vegas story too! We

I have a Vegas story too! We went there for my 21st birthday. We took my best friend and his best friend. He has always thought that me and his best friend were in love with each other (I've known him since kindergarden, he is like a brother). Anyways, we were all walking down the strip and me and his best friend were walking behind him talking. I said under my breath "I still dont get why he thinks that we are in love" and then I laughed. My N turned around all mad and threw his drink in my face right there on the strip in front of everyone! He then ran off and I had to chase him down. He kept pushing me and screaming. He then called the airline trying to get a flight home. His friend finally took him away to calm him down. The next morning he was being all nice and lovey. He said how sorry he was and not to tell anyone what happened. He also said "please dont leave me. You arent going to leave right? You know I didnt mean it. I love you" What a load of crap!

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June 28, 2010 - 12:31pm (Reply to #64)
rainbow1
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Amy

I have a Vegas story too! We went there for my 21st birthday. We took my best friend and his best friend. He has always thought that me and his best friend were in love with each other (I've known him since kindergarden, he is like a brother). Anyways, we were all walking down the strip and me and his best friend were walking behind him talking. I said under my breath "I still dont get why he thinks that we are in love" and then I laughed. My N turned around all mad and threw his drink in my face right there on the strip in front of everyone! He then ran off and I had to chase him down. He kept pushing me and screaming. He then called the airline trying to get a flight home. His friend finally took him away to calm him down. The next morning he was being all nice and lovey. He said how sorry he was and not to tell anyone what happened. He also said "please dont leave me. You arent going to leave right? You know I didnt mean it. I love you" What a load of crap!

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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"

July 1, 2010 - 12:54pm (Reply to #65)
Amy
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wow...

I love the "don't tell anyone" crap!
June 27, 2010 - 1:42am (Reply to #59)
sarahb
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Amy

hi Amy, Oh, my, I am sorry you went through that, he truly sounds like a psychopath. i mean, something about your description made me think he sounds like that Joran Van der Sloot monster that killed Natalie Holloway and the other poor woman in Peru. Please tell me you are free of him now?
June 27, 2010 - 11:09am (Reply to #60)
Amy
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Not Yet

He disappeared Wednesday night and I have not heard from him since. He will reappear some time and I am not sure what to do. We are engaged at the moment. I am probably changing the locks tomorrow. I will sell the ring in a few weeks.
June 27, 2010 - 2:32pm (Reply to #61)
Lisa E. Scott
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Amy

Be glad he disappeared. This is your chance to get out. Please do what you know you need to do and know you're not alone. We are here for you. You can do this! xoxo
June 28, 2010 - 10:33am (Reply to #63)
Amy
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Thanks Lisa!

Even though it feels so strange to have someone just disappear, I am glad. i went to a girlfriend's last night to celebrate. It was a lot of fun and I felt like me normal, happy self again!
June 28, 2010 - 10:32am (Reply to #62)
Amy
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Thanks Lisa!

Even though it feels so strange to have someone just disappear, I am glad. i went to a girlfriend's last night to celebrate. It was a lot of fun and I felt like me normal, happy self again!
June 26, 2010 - 2:12pm
agnesmurphy17
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God Complex!

"I was never emotionally or sexually connected to you. I married you because I thought that my love for you would transform you the way Isabelle's [former girlfriend] love transformed me." Ladies, he married me because I had some cash which helped him to acquire the house he wanted. He got the house in the divorce. I left him shortly after he articulated this line about "transforming" me.
June 27, 2010 - 2:40pm (Reply to #57)
GIJ
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Agnesmurphy17 - Can you say shithead?

I'm glad you left and didn't stay for more of his bullshit. And that he used you for $$ to buy a house? Unbelievable and outrageous. Yes, how big of him to bestow his "love" on you!! Yet he can't acquire his own money for his own stuff. Makes me want to stand in the shower and wash off the cooties for you. I bet Isabelle has some tales to tell, too.
June 25, 2010 - 10:10pm
Goldie
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Are you kidding me?

Just got a letter from "my man in jail" who would NEVER stop loving me and would die without me, after only 43 days of NC on my part and dozens of love letter from him: I will always call you for problems I have with girls or other things that happen in my life. I want us for now to have an "open relationship" with each other. You can always come to me and tell me your problems. So please hit me back and tell me what's going on or at least help me to better myself. Gee, sounds to me like he has moved on so fast and he's in jail, he must have found a sugar mama to pay his way while he is in there. This letter I got today just proves that the NP D&D's even when in jail, perhaps he has found a new guy? Funny there is no mention of my restitution or all the horrible things he did to me. No remorse, no guilt, and no realization that he left me high and dry with broken things, no money, and a broken heart. This letter is more pathetic than the bs love letters cuz at least those are hysterical. This letter shows me that the entire relationship was a sham. I vow to maintain no contact no matter what. It just occurred to me as I am writing this that this letter may be a trap to try to get me to write back, all this talk about other girls, he is trying to get me jealous. Oooohhhh, I'm getting good at this. First he does the lovey dovey thing and that does not work so now he trys the cold detatched thing to see if this will work. I remember he used to do this when he was here, if I did not respond he would do the full gammet until he got a response. Or he means all this crap today and his mask is down so he is simply showing his true colors. He probably already moved on before he went to jail and now he is just playing me. Thank God for this site because it is teaching me to be wiser and one step ahead, so that he is NEVER ABLE TO SUCK ME IN AGAIN.
June 25, 2010 - 8:48pm
narcsurvivor
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Here's a sampling of what my

Here's a sampling of what my prince charmer liked to dish out to me: "I really don't get you. You do not know how to treat a man, or do things for a man, even if you don't want too. Thats a horrible quality to have, especially if you plan to marry someone one day. I could imagine how much worst things can be." "The way u act, are reasons why men and women break up, or get divorced. I want a women, that no matter what situation shes in, she always take care of her mans needs. And would do whatever it takes to make him happy, even if she isn't in the mood. This person is not you. Thats one quality that i can't deal with, and really annoys me. The other problems i can somewhat deal with." "Or maybe u should go find that perfect man u want, since i'm obviously not good enough to be him, according to your text messages last week. Maybe u should date other people, so u can see how valueable i really am." "But for now, we need to be away from each other. I love you, but you got some annoying issues with men." And damn it to hell, but I just broke NC of 4 months!!! I just had to email him about a crisis happening in my life right now because I knew he would be the only one who wasn't going to sugar coat it and not tell me I'm guilty or it's my fault. Oh well:(
June 25, 2010 - 8:09pm
NancyM
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Hmmmm

Too many to list, some are already posted by others but i will go with my first N experience. On asked why he had suddenly gone off sex..."You know what us guys are like, we get tired of slamming away at the same piece of meat" Daily expression"All women are evil cheating conniving whores!" On leaving him "You know what makes me really mad about you leaving me? I am the one that trained you. I have done all the work to train you and some other prick is going to get the benefits" Lovely guy...

Nevergoback

June 26, 2010 - 8:51am (Reply to #52)
Goldie
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Oh and we don't buddy

Hi, I was laughing in horror over this guy's nerve. Then I thought, he was too stupid to sensor his thoughts like many guys would, he basically gave you the heads up into his mind which is a big gift cuz then you know for sure if you may have had any doubts, what's up. I can remember being slammed when I was tired thinking, is this guy EVER going to finish, so getting slammed all night is not always the hirvana for us that they imagine it to be. I love how these Np's say how awful it is to be with us but it's a real picnic for us to listen to their stupidity, ridiculous sexual desires, boring past gf crap and all the other nonsense. How about what we do: Oh yes honey you are the best, and listen to their ramblings with feigned interest. Are they so stupid as to think that we hang on their every work like we're listening to someone intelligent and worldly. Oh and ty for "training" me so well cuz now I know to stay away from freaks like you.
June 26, 2010 - 11:34pm (Reply to #53)
NancyM
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true

I was very young when this one happened and he let the mask slip all the way off after I was about 6 months pregnant. He was relentless over everything, I had to account for every second of my day, every dollar I spent, and constant rage. I guess leaving him I was running for the life of my child rather than for my own. He was the whole psychopath deal and I did not need to know about Ns to figure that one out. Unfortunately the Ns in my life after that seemed tame by comparison so I still had a lot to learn.

Nevergoback

June 25, 2010 - 5:23pm
Susan32
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Playing the victim

After the D&D- "You want to be the teacher!" (how relevant, considering how much I've read up on the pathological immaturity of Ns and Ps) "You're imposing on me! You're violating my privacy!"-How my ex-P reacted to my congratulations on his betrothal. I wanted to tell him he was giving himself bad juju, he was jinxing myself. It REALLY bothered me how he coldly referred to his girlfriend/fiancee by her surname, in such a proper, emotionless way. It was chilling. "I'm not your puppet"-When I was telling him to apologize. He'd repeat "you were inappropriate" like a broken record. He liked the idea of me dying of a broken heart for him, sicko... I'm ALIVE, and that's the sweetest torture I can inflict on him! Apparently he had told some of his young male disciples (when I was in his freshman lab class) that he wanted me to drop dead. Little did I know that being ALIVE was the best revenge, best served chilled.
July 1, 2010 - 11:09am (Reply to #50)
calamity-g
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playing the victim

Susan32-- The nasty narcissist I knew offered to come and help me kill myself. I told him I was depressed. He said he was considering shooting himself, which I didn't believe. Then he said he would come here and help me die. Said, "It wouldn't bother me if you died. I would help you with that anytime... No it wouldn't bother me at all," he added. I had not told him I wanted to die but the opposite, that I wanted to live. This was our last conversation, 8 months ago, but I shall never forget it. This guy is 63 years old and a life ins. agent! They are freaks! Nasty sick cruel freaks! ~~~~~~~~ My Blog

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June 25, 2010 - 9:39am
rhiannon
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This is more of a "worst

This is more of a "worst thing he did to you," but, I'll never forget the time we were eating lasagna for dinner and listening to the iPod. I was apparently changing the songs too often for his liking, so he grabbed the iPod, yanked the cord from it, and threw it in my food (causing sauce to splatter all over me). He then proceeded to get furious with me because I didn't want to eat my dinner.
June 24, 2010 - 10:26pm
enoughalready
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worse things said

"I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you"!
June 24, 2010 - 8:14pm
jennie160
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There are so many

Toward the end out our relationship we weren't having sex anymore because I didn't want to be forced to do anything I didn't want to do anymore so he tells me that if I didn't have sex soon he didn't know how long he would be able to keep treating me nice. He constantly made me feel like I was the crazy one even though know I realize I was the sane one. He would constantly call me throughout the day to check in on me and if I didn't answer he would accuse me of having an affair but when I would call him and really need him for something, like my car wouldn't start, I would have no right to get mad when he didn't answer. He would throw temper tantrums if I wanted to go see a friend or my parent and say that I never spent time with him even though all he did was play computer games all day. When I was getting ready for a job interview he got upset because I was getting dressed up and putting on make-up. He told me that if I wanted to go out with friends he had to meet them first to "approve" of them. He would ask me for my opinion on something but them would always argue with me about it. When I gave up on giving my opinion he would get mad at me for not giving it. He got mad at me one time when we were at the movies because I didn't tell him I was going to the bathroom even though I looked right at him and told him I was going. He was snoring one night and I got sick of it so I went to sleep in the spare bedroom and he got pissed because I had. He looked through my texts and got mad when he saw a text from a male coworker even though it was work related. He "jokingly" threatened to rape me when we were in the middle of the grocery store. After I had left and filed for divorce he told me to "be careful there are worse guys out there than me"
June 24, 2010 - 10:41pm (Reply to #46)
Lisa E. Scott
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jennie160

OMG! Talk about mind f@#ck! Your ex sounds relentless! So glad you got out of that madness!
June 24, 2010 - 7:31pm
betty2020
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He told me after he hooked

He told me after he hooked up with the OW that "you are an ex for a reason". Really? Thats strange because I am the one who walked out on you remember? YOU are an ex for a reason. Idiot.

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

June 23, 2010 - 7:42pm
TNR1
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During D&D...

Mr. N commented "You should become my friend on Facebook. Then you could write about what a great fuck I am on my wall."
June 23, 2010 - 7:11pm
not-an-idiot
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There are so many.

There are so many. According to him I am: an idiot, the stupidest person on Earth, a cunt, bitch, needy, too sensitive, I will never understand him or his friends & how they are "cozy" (read: flirty and disrespectful as a result), I'm too negative, too unhappy. Well, Who is going to be upbeat and optimistic after being called everything one could imagine and knowing he lied about his interactions with a bunch of nasty and ugly females? There is so much more. Someday I'll write my story.
June 23, 2010 - 4:02pm
herlatestvictim
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If only the could not speak...

"If you looked in my iPhone you would kill yourself."
June 24, 2010 - 7:28pm (Reply to #41)
betty2020
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DICK!

DICK!

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June 23, 2010 - 4:25pm (Reply to #40)
rainbow1
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WOW! I am sure that you felt

WOW! I am sure that you felt really secure in your relationship after that!

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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"

June 23, 2010 - 4:25am
aceonelady
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the worst...

He said to me after D&D me after 10 hours from my arrival on the USA after 2 years of talking on Skype daily,chatting more then 16 hours a day,everyday,never missed 1 day(HUGE RED FLAGS)he just told me the to f***k me the had to think about something else,and that if he saw me walking on the street he even would't look at me...He told me i wasn't aloud to touch him...he told me that he was wondering how would be to have sex with a man....he told me he was gay,then he said he wasn't he just wanted me to get the hell away from him...he said he would like me to leave and if i asked him please take me to the airport then he would say see you don't get what you want so you are leaving,you are not my friend....he called me an ugly bitch...he told me he tought about killing me and then commiting suicide...he said he never did loved me that he was just f****G with my head...he told me he doesn't like me and that next time i go fly to the USA he hopes my plane crashes and that i am a loser...

Aceonelady

June 22, 2010 - 10:40pm
Happy1
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His biggest saying to me

His biggest saying to me when he gets mad when I stand up for myself is: "I'm not your puppet". When in reality he means I'm his puppet.
June 23, 2010 - 7:30am (Reply to #37)
smileyfacepr
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Geez!!!

Mine told me the same thing once.." What? Am I ur puppet?" If our relationship was always going to be arguing the relationship wasnt worth it...Id ask if he metioned me to anyone he ran into that didnt know me and he would just say "NO" just like I didnt exsist...so if I didnt exsist when we were together y am I so surprised he has gone NC like if I never Exsisted....That hurts!!

smileyfacepr

June 22, 2010 - 8:05pm
broken23
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he didnt say mean things,

he didnt say mean things, just a liar, until the d&d occured at the end of each round. then he would find everything wrong with me. - youre selfish - youre uncaring what kind of a woman are you. you let me get wasted. i dont motivate him to be better - your hair is getting thin - most of the time youre too much - i dont care about his family - so what i slept with someone else, i was lonely, and you werent around - at my mom being sick...i cant be there for you, find someone else - at me being pregnant...get rid of it. it will ruin my career. what a piece of crap
June 22, 2010 - 10:49pm (Reply to #34)
Lisa E. Scott
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Broken23

Total piece of crap. Worthless. Hope you're doing ok. Let me know next time you're in chi-town. xoxo
June 24, 2010 - 7:33pm (Reply to #35)
betty2020
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coo coo

coo coo

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June 22, 2010 - 8:05pm
broken23
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he didnt say mean things,

he didnt say mean things, just a liar, until the d&d occured at the end of each round. then he would find everything wrong with me. - youre selfish - youre uncaring what kind of a woman are you. you let me get wasted. i dont motivate him to be better - your hair is getting thin - most of the time youre too much - i dont care about his family - so what i slept with someone else, i was lonely, and you werent around - at my mom being sick...i cant be there for you, find someone else - at me being pregnant...get rid of it. it will ruin my career. what a piece of crap
June 22, 2010 - 8:00pm
enoughalready
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worse things said

You have a *igger nose and ugly toes-but don't take that personal. You are a cheater and whore. You are acting like a psycho-bitch. You are using me like a boy toy. You are a spoiled brat. You are a #igger.(I'm not even close to that ethnic background). I did her in the #ss and she loved it. But got sick of her real fast. Who's your new bf? you can do better than that.( Txts to get a reply). Complimenting other women in front of me! As I write this-it amazes me how much *hit I took from him!
June 22, 2010 - 7:58pm
gingercat
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aging without empathy

As the years rolled by the insults and neglect became more 'focused.' I used to hear things like, "Your hair looks like snakes," and endured all the years and years of other typical N gaslighting that would fill a book. Now my experience is actually more disturbing because I realize how seriously alone I am. Facing an overnight in a strange town while preparing for a colonoscopy (he was attending the 'annual' meeting of great importance, for a job he subsequently lost) I was summarily dismissed with the words....."Have a great day!" He then failed to appear to pick me up for hours after the procedure while our young son sat with me. He did make it in plenty of time to chat up the doctor and joke about my condition. Major hysterectomy a year ago and not even a glass of water during initial recovery without my having to ask repeatedly. He wanted to know if I had a 'local' anesthetic and fell asleep in the chair when my daughter in law kindly brought him along to bring me home from the hospital. Most recently a breast biopsy and he signed the release papers which stated the results woulde be given in no more than 2 working days. It was three weeks until he even mentioned it and that was to ask, "How are you feeling?" Honestly, it doesn't get better with age. Just changes to more serious consequences so get out while you are young and hopefully healthy. You see, I think he was always disappointed that I didn't have cancer or die because that would have given him the drama he needed and sympathy to milk from others and ability to justify his empty existence cloaked in fake sorrow. This is really sick stuff.
June 22, 2010 - 7:30pm
baddream
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Different Problem

I have been reading this thread and am bewildered because I can not remember N having ever said a bad thing to me.. It was all about what he didn't say. My problem was that N would say one thing, and do something completely different. He would be sweet talking me and telling how much he loved me and a half hour later be in bed with the other girlfriend. I wish he had actually said bad things--- it would have made the NC so much easier. It was all about deception and lies with mine. He was very very careful to wear the mask and not show the evil that was just beneath the surface.
June 22, 2010 - 7:55pm (Reply to #29)
hitandrun
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baddream

Mine never said anything bad either. He just lied all the time. All I was was someone to fill a gap until his business got rolling. He was bored and I was his distraction. I probably said meaner stuff to him than he ever said to me.
June 22, 2010 - 7:04pm
secondchance
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hmmm...

so many i can't think of them all! let's see... you made me lie i wouldn't do this if you weren't so (fill in the blank) i only react to you..i don't do anything wrong you're a blanking c word (can't even write that let alone say it) i could do better than you i am so nice and everyone likes me and nobody likes you why would i remember anything you talk about? haha.. what idiots!
June 22, 2010 - 6:44pm
cynthia (not verified)
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eww brings back bad memories

you can act like a cunt to your husband but not me Gutter slut your nuts you have multiple personalities I am not going down that road, end of discussion why do you like playing the victim I want to watch two men F----k you you belong in a padded room your shallow I bet you would love to be raped everything he said to me HURT, I think the worst was his sexual things he wanted me to do because I knew in my heart this creature did not love me or was capable of loving another human being, all the rest was pure projection. It was like a knife in my heart every time he told me what he wanted me to do sexually, for I knew that is what he was doing in his life before me, during me and will go on doing after me.
June 22, 2010 - 6:30pm
Happy1
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mine has said numerous times

mine has said numerous times that he would leave if I gained 5 lbs. He also cheated on me and said he was on dating sites just to talk to the ladies because I treat him like sh*t.