Is drug addiction a narcissistic behavior?

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#1 June 9, 2010 - 6:29am

Is drug addiction a narcissistic behavior?

A question...

My sister's husband, after a marriage with two small children and a successful career, once again began to take up the lovely habit of smoking crack that he supposedly "recovered" from years ago. The career is gone, he stole money and things from her and from us (and his employer), pays no child support, and sees the children on random occasions. He just dropped out. He gave up what was a really great life, albeit with major responsibilities.

Is this a narcissist? Is drug addiction inherently narcissistic? He has people relying on him, and he just doesn't give a shit.

Thank you...

June 12, 2010 - 5:44pm

Total alcoholic/addict in

Total alcoholic/addict in denial.

Peace. J

Peace. J

June 10, 2010 - 3:31pm

Mine was on drugs and drinking

I did't understand that then. He was hiding it but also I did not knwo signs to look for. I grew up in religious famly and was pretty sheltered and young when I got married (19). So I didn't knwo about drugs. I could never undestand where all the money went and he lied all the time about it. I figured this out later. I did notice he would drink - not every day but go on binges. He would drink for like three days and it was scary adn I had to hide kids from him. I took them to my mums. This happened like once a month or maybe not quite that much. One time I came back to get something I forgot and he raped me. I thank god my kids was not there then. I didn't relaize till last month when therapist helped me understand it was rape. ANd I think now the drug using was morethan I ever knew. I found out now he had been in jail before i knew him adn it was for something to do with drugs. I am trying to learn more about that now.

June 9, 2010 - 10:21pm

My XN was a drug addict.

My XN was a drug addict. However, he professed he was only a social user and not an addict. The first 6 months he did not do drugs. Then he would only do cocaine on Fridays at first. I justified his social use. He never smoked pot. As time passed (9 mo) he began smoking pot daily. I justified his social smoking. He would say it relaxed him. He would get angry that i was not a pot smoker. He wanted me high with him. Towards the end he was escaping to cocaine binges 3x or more a week. Smoked pot all the time. Even then he would try to act as if he had it all under control and he was not an addict. When i left him he told everyone I was a drug addict! Imagine that...

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June 9, 2010 - 6:39am
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Narcissists are usually addicts of some sort

but no not all Drug Addicts are Narcissists. They are narcissist-IC but not NPD

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June 10, 2010 - 3:14pm (Reply to #2)

the narc in my life, my

the narc in my life, my husband, smokes pot daily. He removes the cold hard mask of the daily grind, sits in front of his computer and turns his brain to mush. I have caught him on websites that I don't think a married man should be on, as he is wanking himself off! He is a cold hearted selfish man, who uses drugs to take his mind off what he is really like deep inside. In the beginning of our marriage, I used the excuse that his job was stressful and needed to unwind by smoking pot, now I know different. He has many masks.... I am new to this site, found it while googling 'controlling husband'... it is a relief to finally realize what is wrong with him, and that it is not me that is going crazy!

June 12, 2010 - 2:55pm (Reply to #3)

Mine was a closet druggie.

He loved to smoke pot, but would only do it if he was away from his house or if his son was gone for the night. He always said he couldn't wait until his son was 21 so they could get high together. I told him that it is still illegal even if you're over 21.

He had this woman, a fellow musician, who he liked to hang with. She was our triangle piece, and I believe is every bit as N as he is. He fawned over her like I did him, and she would have no part of him. They were talking one night about doing coke and stuff and I just sat there cuz I've never even tried it. A few months later, he showed me a razor blade he keeps under the floormat of his car. I asked what it was for, and he told me it was a weapon. Yeah right. I may not have tried it, but I had heard and seen plenty. I then knew his life was taking a turn in a direction that I was not interested in going. It was another piece in the beginning of the end.

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