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#1 Jun 17 - 7AM
finallydone
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For Denise

Hi Denise,

I saw your message come through on my Blackberry. I'm at work and they block FB with the firewall so I can't respond until tonight. But I did get the message. Thanks so much for writing. I was thinking when I read it that it's amazing that we can all be so supportive of eachother and we've never even met. "The kindness of strangers"..... Thanks you and have a wonderful day too!

Jun 18 - 2PM
RenewD
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finallydone...

It's all cool, I was at work all day too, and I don't get to even have a computer when I'm at work! It is refreshing to have other people to talk to that "know" what it's about. Unless you've been involved with a Narc, you can't even begin to imagine how mind bendingly effed up it is. I have so many friends whose only advice for me is, "well, why don't you just sit down and talk to him and work these issues out, thats what me and MY ex did." HA. They just don't get it. ~Denise~
Jun 18 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
finallydone
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I am laughing because I"ve

I am laughing because I"ve had that exact same conversation with so many people. They have no idea. I say, "Well I can tell him to just get out, but then he'll say 'YOU GET OUT. I'M NOT SIGNING ANY PAPERS. THIS WILL GO TO COURT' blah blah blah blah blah to infinity. :)
Jun 18 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
RenewD
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LOL!

To infinity is right...there's just no end. Now you made Me laugh. Barbara, there are people who are not psychopaths who have amicably divorced and work together to solve problems with their children etc., who are fair and reasonable. I have friends who are divorced like that, they back each other up and still respect one another even tho they can't live together. Those types of people have NO CLUE why WE can't just work out our problems. They have no ability to relate to this behavior whatsoever. I'm sure there are those that just give in to Narcs, not realizing they are dealing with psychopathics. But, there are many who are not dealing with psychopaths in their divorces. Mostly, those are the types I've come across. ~Denise~
Jun 18 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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Denise

Barbara, there are people who are not psychopaths who have amicably divorced and work together to solve problems with their children etc., who are fair and reasonable. I have friends who are divorced like that, they back each other up and still respect one another even tho they can't live together. Those types of people have NO CLUE why WE can't just work out our problems. They have no ability to relate to this behavior whatsoever. I wasn't AT ALL implying that normal people don't have this happen nor did I negate what you were saying... I was just pointing out that perhaps some of them (which is my experience) are in denial about the true dynamics of the split. And no, I don't think all men are pathological... nor do I see one under every rock or around every corner. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/
Jun 18 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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or....

whose only advice for me is, "well, why don't you just sit down and talk to him and work these issues out, thats what me and MY ex did." HA. or... their ex is an N - shining them on, lying to them and B.S.ing them and they are clueless. Many people are very afraid and even too horrified to admit or see that their partners or exes are/ were pathological. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Free articles & information for abuse victims: http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com Effective Coaching for Victims of Pathologicals http://one2one4victims.webs.com/