Just need a little support for the day
Just need a little support for the day
He came back again to get more stuff. I confronted him about the mortgage broker saying they wouldn't continue on with the refinance unless he put in writing that he did intend to show up at closing. He says, "Just inform them that I will be there. I'm a man of my word." Well... a fight resulted where I informed him that he was a child in a man's body, acted like he was ten years old and clearly was the only person in this situation that needed psychological help. As you can imagine, this didn't go well. I took my cat and my dog (my son was tnankfully still at camp) and went to my mothers for the night.
When I did have to come back the next day with my son (had to pick him up from camp) and came home. He was packing more things and did bring me a note (beause I had also threatened legal action at this point) and the note said, "Pending my availability, I will make every effort to be at the closing." And signed his name. Obviously, this isn't going to be enough for them... obviously he thinks he's very smart leaving it open ended and even signing this paper is no guarantee that he will show.
Well.... when he finally did pull out of the driveway last night with most of his things (a few things still upstairs and in the garage) I was crying and he walked in and saw me and said, "I just wanted to be courteous and let you know I was pulling out. Last time I left and didn't say anything you said it hurt your feelings." I said fine. I didn't mean to be crying when he walked in, I just was crying because of all of this hurts so much.
Well later on when he got back to his mothers, he called and left me a voicemail saying that he was feeling awful because I was so upset and that he didn't want to see people breaking down and he felt awful about all of this too. He said we had to try to find a way to get through this and that he really hoped I was okay. It was the human coming through... I know him... what he said wasn't manipulative this time. BUT IT WILL BE AGAIN IN NO TIME FLAT. So of course I cried somemore.
Just need a little support and reminder to stay strong and maybe I won't have nightmares every single night after awhile. I really could use some uninterrupted sleep without feeling constantly traumatized.
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