is this "crazy making" or is he delutional or have i finally lost it?

I desperately need to understand what is going on. Please help.
I told N the only thing he can talk to me about is our child. He is on the rampage about sending her to school in the fall. She barely meets the cut off to attend kgarten. I said she wasn't emotionally ready. He said well we'just send her to kgarten for 2 yrs! He took her to the screening. They told him she wasn't ready. Now he's on the rampage to talk me into letting her go to prek 1 and a half hrs away from where I work. So he can take her and pick her up even though temp custody orders heve him seeing her minimally throughout the week. I found a prek between both of our jobs good locatio excellent repution 5 day/week. I tried to make him feel like the prek I was taking about was his idea. He said. The one he found would be better since its a prek and not a preschool! Is there a difference? Then he called back and said I will consider your preschool if you and me are the only ones on the pick up list! He does not want my parents to pick her up. Why? My wildest imagination could not tell you. He said I can't believe you would do this to her I said what he said pick a preschool based on location.
Help me make some sense of this. I don't think its about winning. Its about what makes the most sense. Why should I be an hour and a half away from my daughtert every day. She's npot even 5 yet!