Told my feelings to mom in law and sister in law

Malloryforest, I totally support what you did. And I love your tone - "dignified". One thing a friend of mine told me with a very strong tone when I was in the bottom of the pit was: "Elena, you need to act with dignity during this process". And I remember that this really impacted me in a positive way, it filled me with courage, and somehow it just stayed with me. And it drove my attitude from that point forward, and throughout the entire divorce process. In regards to your sister-in-law and mother-in-law, I think that with their actions, they are enabling him, or supporting him in his actions. They deserve to hear the truth from your standpoint about their behavior. You have the right to express your dissatisfaction about this, as your divorce is not final yet. You have my support my friend! Elena

of course you did the right thing! It's fine to second guess yourself as long as you realize at some point YOU ARE NOT IN THE WRONG! Why do we have to keep telling ourselves this. N don't have to do that. Mallory, you are a very caring individual. You are not losing your ability to care just because you were bold! ((((((hug)))))))) nolongercontrolled

Good job. I'm very proud of you for writing that letter to sister and mother in law. It's important that you get things off your chest, so important. Regardless of whether they write back, you spoke your mind and that's what matters. It's exactly what you needed to do. Congrats.

...for you that you either don't hear back from her or that she lets you know she understands how you feel... It's good that you got it off your chest. Hopefully her reaction to it won't be negative. ~Denise~