crazy things I've done

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#1 March 12, 2009 - 11:34pm
cassiemay
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crazy things I've done

Ok, first, and I have many,
I went to the house when we were first separated and he was going to our "cabin" in the mountains with his new girlfriend. I had called him and said I was coming over to talk to him, after about 4 months of separation. He hung up on me. Being as angry as I was I called back, left a message that I was "on my way". No answer. I got to the house and "they" were gone. The new g/f's car in the driveway and "our" dog gone with them for a walk. So....I went into the house, found champagne and a very expensive bottle of wine as well as perfect bread loaf from a local deli. I proceeded to drink half the champagne, and a glass of the special wine. Then I threw the special bread out the back porch for the deer or whatever. I changed the sheets that I knew they had been sleeping in, locked the doors and slept there overnight.

Now...this did not do me any good. Of course he reported it to his attorney, but hey, it was still my house as well and he chose, of course, to spend the night at her place and then berate me for having the "nerve" to intrude on "his" space. Oh yeah, I made the mistake of leaving a cigarette butt on the deck...... So.....I could have done MUCH worse, but didn't, so am actually proud of myself for not throwing his stuff out the window! I left before they returned the next day. I'm sure they had a great time that night talking about how crazy I was.....

More to follow. Please enter your own crazy action stories as we all need some humor! CM.

March 13, 2009 - 2:21pm
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crazy things I've done

Hey, where are you all?? Come on, I know you've got stories to share to help us, hopefully, laugh once in awhile. Ok, I'll share another. Still have the garage door opener after he changed the locks but didn't realize I still had it. Went to the house when I thought he was working just to look around (and everytime I did I'd find something he was trying to hide for legal purposes). So....I'm looking at papers piled up and inspecting things and lo and behold....he comes in. Fuck. So....I couldn't hide in the closet and instead said "hello". Of course he freaked out. "How did you get in here? What have you been doing?" I was, of course, humiliated once again, and had no answer other than that I had come to get some VIN numbers from my camper, stored there and the "door was open". Yeah. Anyway, this, as many other things I have done under the influence of anger, jealousy, and substances has just come back to hurt me in our divorce settlement proceedings. I know this is not amusing, as I'd hoped, but let it be a warning to you all that such actions may accomplish nothing but more heartbreak and legal repercussions....so be careful what you wish for! CM
March 15, 2009 - 12:01pm (Reply to #2)
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Crazy things I've done too....

I just flat out started abusing him...hitting him, physically attacking him, calling him names, wishing harm on him, etc. It was a horrible way to live. I put spyware on his computer to track his porn sites; I monitored his hotmail account, I would check his phone constantly, and even drive by the gym at night to see if his car was parked there. So yeah, I got a little crazy too. I think because they bring the worst out in their partner and she becomes so insecure and ready to "catch" him doing something wrong; we act in ways that are out of character. But sadly I think this is normal if you've been married to a Narc.

"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

March 15, 2009 - 2:00pm (Reply to #3)
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more crazy

Jodie, Thanks for the story. Reminds me that I also got into his email. Oh.....it was a mistake in that legally it may come back to haunt me Yet......in doing so, and Get This.....I found evidence that he had place $50,000 in retirement accounts that he was hoping to hide from me before the divorce was final. So....he finds out I'm into the email (another story) , of course calls his attorney, and my attorney and I get a letter saying "Chris and I are both shocked and dismayed that Jane has stooped to this level.." My attorney sends a letter back saying "yes, sometimes our clients, under the stress of emotional duress do things that they are not so proud of. Such as Your client trying to hide his retirement assets e.g., please see attached email to the administrator of the company confirming such arrangements" Needless to say, that was the end of their complaint about me.....CM..
March 15, 2009 - 2:09pm (Reply to #4)
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another story cont.

Oh shit, it's really pitiful I have all these stories..... In my last email I said that I had gotten into my husband's email. It was a very stealthy move and I was quite proud of myself (though honestly it cost me more heartbreak than it was worth). Anyway....the way he found out was through my own unmanaged anger. Ok, I'm looking through his email on my own computer and see that is seeing/dating like 5 women at once through Match.com. This infuriates me. Especially when I see that he is telling all of them the same things about how special they are, how he is so looking forward to their next date, etc. So...this one contact in particular was obviously quite smitten and I'm sure had no Idea what else he was up to. So I forward to her an email he had sent to another woman he had a date with......"OOps...wrong email address!" Yeah, well he's anything but stupid and I WAS so he caught on right away that something was wrong. (oh, the devil, Vodka) Of Course, this did not help me legally so learn from the lesson ladies. But...I have to admit it gave me a bit of guilyt pleasure....CM