he made contact
he made contact
Originally posted by: Sharon1970star on Feb 17, 2008, 1:09pm
Hi Everyone, i really need advice here as i'm not sure how to proceed with this one. My ex of 2 year have been broken up now for 3 months (only 5 weeks with NC). Throughout the first month and a half we were emailing eachother some pretty hurtful emailis. The break up was messy and immature (we were fighting quite a bit) and resulted out of a big fight and us not speaking. We bumped into eachother 1.5 months ago and based on his demeanour and things he said to me i basically turned around and asked him for another chance which he flat out refused. this only made me beg more (a few days and i gave up).
He has contacted me (just a simple hello hope you're well) and i have not responded. Why - because 1. i don't trust his intentions (i believe he was rejected by another woman). 2. He was mean to me when we broke and hello isn't going to cut it at this point. I know that if i don't respond he will not pursue it further because of his pride.
I decided to respond 5 days later: "Thank you for your email. I'm fine .I also hope that you are happy and doing well". its been a week now and he has not resonded or sent me another email. I would like to know if you think he will contact me again.
I know I shouldn't want him back however i have to be honest i do. Yes he is a narcissist however not as mean or difficult as many of the narcissist described here. He was considerate, tender, giving, respsonible (with me) and has always been in long term relationships. However, he has a huge sense of entitlement and no empathy which i realize makes it difficult for a loving relationship. But i still feel that we could have a good enough relationship and still love him dearly.
I am not sure if he will try contacting me again, however, if i wanted to see if a reconciliation is possible what is the best way to proceed with winning him back without looking weak?
Any advise would be so appreciated.