15 months later...
15 months later...
He surfaced. Tonight, I received an email from him. It's in my junk email marked as spam. This is the fifth reappearance, I think. Maybe sixth. I’d have to really think about it in front of a 2000s calendar in order to figure it out.
I got the initial shot of adrenaline and now, I'm just thinking it's perfectly logical that it happened. He's "not a computer guy" and probably hasn't emailed me for years. He's a phone and in-person guy and that's how he's come back around before.
We were never really BF/GF, but best friends, social partners, travel companions, everything but the physical. He told me several times that he wanted us to be together. We'd start talking about it, he'd say he'd call and we'd talk more, and then disappear. It came to a head last fall when we got back from a trip, he decided that "we were fulfilling each other emotional needs" and it was a problem. He wanted to meet other people, but continue to travel with me, etc. It was messed up and I wouldn't do it. It went on from there... The last time he called me, it was to yell at me for not waving at him when we passed each other by the gas station. (We live in the same nhood.) The last time I had communication with him was an accidental dog-walking run-in in March.
In the time since he ditched me, I have started running, lost almost 40#, had an emotional upheaval rivaled only by the death of my sister, finally gotten settled into a peaceful life without the random events (and admittedly, sometimes excitement) of what my life was with him.
I thought that maybe because I was the one who finally wouldn't put up with it any more, he told me he'll "leave it up to my discretion" (betting that I wouldn't walk away), I blocked him on FB and removed him from my phone, and read everything I could get my mitts on to explain his behavior that maybe, just maybe, he would be gone for good. And I thought he was for a while. But, I guess that fact that he resurfaced is more proof that this is what and who he is.
More proof that they always come back.
Do narcs usually return to
Samantha
forget about him....
stay~strong
yes they come back even 15