Is it fact, they will devalue and discard everyone who comes into their lives anyone care to answer

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Nov 10 - 1PM (Reply to #18)
betty2020
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This is only my opinion on

This is only my opinion on how i would handle this: Get a good attorney that is affordable but can handle this type of a case. File for divorce under grounds of mental cruelty. Seek out a therapist that specializes in trauma and ptsd. Get an eval and if you are diagnosed ask the therapist to write a letter to give to your attorney. Ask the attorney to suponea records or if you were included in the session with the therapist that diagnosed him NPD, ask if theses records can be used in court. If you need more documentation I would be willing to give you a letter base on your affiliation with our group as to further support your claim. Ask for child support and spousal maintenance for one year to give you the time you need to get back on your feet. Ask for all therapy and medical expense to be paid by the xNH as well as all attorney fees. This is what you have the right to seek and you are justified in doing so. Also request that he has supervised visitations (at his expense) with the child until he can be deemed safe to be alone for his visitation with the child. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 15 - 6AM (Reply to #19)
sickandtiredofit
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Betty, thank you

You have given me some sounds advice. I know my union has lawyers at a reduced fee and first consultation is free. I am super scared I am going to mistep and it is going to cost me more emotionally and financially than I can afford. I am still very jumping and doing the eggshell walk everyday. I am putting on my best face towards him, but I suspect he is on to me, and he has already been working on a counter attack. He recently told me all of his files were wiped off the computer at work, he had to change all of his passwords, and he has a new computer. I am sure that he did it incase I had an investigation. Don't really care about revenge. Just want out.
Nov 15 - 6AM (Reply to #20)
sickandtiredofit
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Betty one more question...

If I get evaluated for PTSD or my husband uses my illness against me, can I lose custody?
Nov 10 - 10AM (Reply to #8)
Used
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betty

i wrote a post to jaycee and you ..could you please comment on what i said about my exh...thanks
Nov 10 - 11AM (Reply to #9)
betty2020
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Used, Im so sorry hon but I

Used, Im so sorry hon but I can find this post that your referring to but if you can let me know i will most certainly respond. I have went back a full week on the board but do not see it anywhere. Copy paste and put up a new post on the board so i can see it. xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 10 - 11AM (Reply to #10)
Used
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betty

it was about an hour ago, titled jaycee and bettyxx
Nov 10 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
betty2020
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I did not realize you are

I did not realize you are still in the home with him. It is time to make this break. Run for yours and your sons life. If him bringing grocery's into the home is considered an act of kindness, I would hate to see the other side of this creature. If you cant bring yourself to care enough about you then think of your child. Do it for him. Give him an opportunity at a normal life. They are just as damaged, if not more by these people. Think about him... xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Nov 10 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
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betty2020

there has been a mixup, i replied to a post of jaycee,s but at the end of it i said betty could you tell me what my exh playing at.. can you possible get rid of that on the top of the page if possible.used
Nov 10 - 9AM
CarolKittyGale (not verified)
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Jaycee

You better believe it honey. Had two of the twits...went straight into NC with narc #2 because knew it was the only way because of my past experience with the first one. Narc #1 wanted to stay 'best friends' with me, once he got over his rage that I'd left him, and hoovered me in, worst days work I ever done, but I was frighten of him. He was in my life for over 8 years as a 'friend' which I tried to keep distant and I have watched him follow the same pattern he did with me over and over again. I've hopefully finally got rid of both due to me taking the bull by the horns and shaking myself up. I want quality of life, not only have I got rid of both my narcs but also friends that didn't treat me with respect. So it's all good now or getting there anyway.
Nov 10 - 8AM
WellRed
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IMO - Yes, eventually. The

IMO - Yes, eventually. The minute the "new person" no longer pats them on the back and tells them they are the best - look out!