What was your lightbulb moment to decide to stay NC for good?

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#1 Sep 19 - 5AM
Deidre99
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What was your lightbulb moment to decide to stay NC for good?

I think that while we know NC is the 'right and only' way to healing, and regaining control over our lives, we sometimes break it, early on in the recovery process.

For me, I've been 15 months NC. In the early stages, after breaking up with N, I broke NC a few times, because he was on a smear campaign to our mutual friends at the time, and I kept trying to figure out (from him) why he was doing and saying such things about me. This served no purpose, except he hung up on me, and during one call said...'I don't care if you died.' (I called a member from this site shortly after that happened, in tears.)

Looking back, wow, it's like that was someone else's life, not mine, you know?

THAT was when I realized...this person is nuts. He will never change. He goads me to calling him, when I do...he just wants to hurt me. Just wants my attention. Just wants supply. It took that moment for me to turn away from contacting him for good.

So, just curious as to what YOUR lightbulb moment was when you realized that staying NC was the ONLY WAY OUT of narc-ville?

Sep 29 - 12AM
Elizabeth Bennet
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Good topic , Deidre

Sep 28 - 7AM
evergreen
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Mine has only happened very

Sep 28 - 10AM (Reply to #45)
Deidre99
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you sound super strong, and

Sep 28 - 8PM (Reply to #46)
evergreen
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Too Kackered to bother anymore!

Sep 29 - 12AM (Reply to #47)
talktothehand
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Knackers

Sep 27 - 6PM
brokenacc
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When he brought

Sep 28 - 7AM (Reply to #43)
Deidre99
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omg, that is unreal. i have

Sep 21 - 6PM
rosedewittbukater
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lightbulb moment

Sep 22 - 5AM (Reply to #39)
Deidre99
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rose

Sep 22 - 6AM (Reply to #40)
rosedewittbukater
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Abuse Buffet

Sep 25 - 11AM (Reply to #41)
Deidre99
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Goldie's reference

Sep 21 - 10AM
onwithmylife
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Deidre99

Sep 21 - 11AM (Reply to #37)
Im_always_fine
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Ah yes...those terms of

Sep 20 - 8PM
tramah
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Many lightbulb moments

Sep 21 - 4AM (Reply to #32)
Deidre99
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Your story touched me. Like

Sep 23 - 5PM (Reply to #33)
probationnc
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Deidre99..you really inspire

Sep 26 - 3PM (Reply to #35)
neverlookback
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HOOD rAT

Sep 25 - 11AM (Reply to #34)
Deidre99
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I've been following your

Sep 20 - 5AM
Deidre99
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Thanks for sharing everyone.

Sep 20 - 8AM (Reply to #28)
IncognitoBurrito
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I didn't

Sep 20 - 8AM (Reply to #29)
Deidre99
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lightbulb moment of female

Sep 21 - 12PM (Reply to #30)
IncognitoBurrito
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Thank you

Sep 19 - 12PM
owenjohnston
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my light bulb moment was when

Sep 19 - 10AM
TruthbeginsToday
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shock and master of harm did it for me.

Sep 24 - 6PM (Reply to #25)
foreverfun1
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truth wow this proves it

Sep 19 - 8AM
mystwoman
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My lightbulb moment happened

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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

Sep 19 - 12PM (Reply to #23)
Im_always_fine
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One the BEST BEST BEST parts

Sep 19 - 9AM (Reply to #22)
neverlookback
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like I always said

Sep 19 - 8AM (Reply to #20)
Deidre99
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<>WOW! That is an incredible

Sep 19 - 11AM (Reply to #21)
TruthbeginsToday
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Your story shows how SICK