A Narc's home (house/apartment) - common traits?

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#1 Jun 4 - 12AM
greenbean
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A Narc's home (house/apartment) - common traits?

I noticed something with my ex and was wondering if it might be a narc trait in general. He owned a nice condo in a high rise (and told me a couple times how "expensive" it was, as if I cared).

It looked like a hotel room. It was completely (and I mean completely) devoid of any personal affects except for a book by his night stand and his keys/wallet/phone on a counter. There was literally nothing else in the entire place that made it look like someone lived there. Nothing on the walls. Everything was white and beige, and perfect. Uber clean, nothing out of place.

He also did laundry constantly (every day), showered multiple times a day, and told me he didn't like the smells of other people. He wouldn't make eggs in the morning because of the smell.

I'll never forget one time when we had sex, and it was a bit sweaty. I didn't want to move afterwards (sorry for the detail). He said "stay right there" and got up. I figured he was going for a towel for me... wrong. The minutes ticked by. I finally got up after about 5, and ran into him. He had taken a shower. While I was lying in the sweaty bed, staying right there as instructed. I said "what the hell, you took a shower?" and he smiled.

Anyway, I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced the empty house/apartment/condo thing and the uber-control over his environment.

Jul 4 - 4PM
petitoiseau
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Mine had the most incredible

Jul 3 - 8AM
neverlookback
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YES

Jun 30 - 8PM
Bob
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Portrait

Jun 30 - 1PM
Singer
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OCD!

Jun 30 - 11AM
Qing Yuan
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my ex narc husband was anal

Jun 30 - 3AM
freefromjail
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Uninhabitable

Jun 6 - 8PM
Ophelia
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Neat, orderly, the only

Jun 6 - 1PM
rosedewittbukater
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lots of pictures

Jun 6 - 12PM
Froglegs
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I was not allowed to change

Jun 5 - 4PM
COMomoftwo
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Our house together

Jun 5 - 10AM
Loren12
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Sounds familiar...

Jun 5 - 9AM
DawnWins
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Wouldn't know, exNH AND his

Jun 4 - 5PM
lessonlearned
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my exN had no permanant home

Jun 4 - 1PM
chris53
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My Ex-Narc was the opposite,

Jun 4 - 12PM
fallingfoward
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I surprise....

Jun 4 - 10AM
mystwoman
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Yes, xnh's place was

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Jun 4 - 10AM
Janie53
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Home is where the heart

Jun 4 - 8AM
onwithmylife
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green bean

Jun 4 - 7AM
TruthbeginsToday
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This really made me think back

Jun 4 - 10AM (Reply to #23)
greenbean
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Mine said something similar

Jun 4 - 7AM
Lucky Escape
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Yep....clinical, organised,

Jun 4 - 10AM (Reply to #20)
greenbean
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Yep total control... arg,

Jun 4 - 8PM (Reply to #21)
beautifulmess
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Hmm.. Now that i think about

Jun 4 - 7AM
Hunter
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Was this the Dog

Jun 4 - 3AM
abusednomore
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My ex was the same. I saw

Jun 4 - 2AM
Betterthings
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show home

Jun 4 - 10AM (Reply to #16)
greenbean
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Maybe it's about extremes...

Jun 4 - 1AM
BtrflyGrl
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Yes - totally empty home

Jun 4 - 12AM
tootsgee
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oh yes home was like an empty

Jun 4 - 9PM (Reply to #13)
PrettyFlame
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Exactly... weird