feeling like I don't matter, like nothing I do matters

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#1 Mar 16 - 12PM
herlatestvictim
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feeling like I don't matter, like nothing I do matters

I thought I was over letting my narc hurt my feelings.

I picked my narc up because we work together and I'm an idiot. She has been asking me for weeks to bake her cupcakes. She finally wore me down and I said I would as long as she would take them into her house when I picked her up in the morning. She said okay.

I show up with my lovely cupcakes and she refuses to take them inside. She says she will just take them to work. I am angry because I didn't bake them for the office and would look stupid for baking them at all- for no reason! She refuses to take them inside.

We drive away and she can see that I'm angry so says that we can just leave them in my car until the end of the day and then she will take them with her. Now I'm fighting back tears. I'm so hurt. She can see this and now insists that I turn around so that she can take them inside. I do because if I don't turn around, she will be angry and I don't want to deal with that at work.

She spends 10 minutes trying to get me to say why I am upset. "Why are you crying over cupcakes?" All I can say is that it made me sad that she would just leave them in the car. Now, I'm getting the silent treatment.

Am I too sensitive? Now I think this comes down to me always feeling like I don't matter, what I do doesn't matter.

What do you think? Did I overreact? And yes, I know, any contact with narc is going to cause me pain- even if it is just a ride to work. It's been 2 years since we were anything more than friends so I thought I could handle it.

Mar 19 - 12PM
herlatestvictim
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a laughable update!

Mar 19 - 1PM (Reply to #14)
Deidre40
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this person sounds really

Mar 19 - 12PM (Reply to #13)
Used
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herlastestvictim

Mar 16 - 5PM
herlatestvictim
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THANK YOU!

Mar 16 - 5PM (Reply to #11)
Snowflake
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Ha ha

Mar 16 - 2PM
Trainwreck56
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DONT EVER BAKE THE BITCH ANOTHER FUCKING THING!

Mar 16 - 2PM
Deidre40
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I would have eaten the

Mar 16 - 2PM
Recovering Suzie
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You didn't over react

Mar 16 - 2PM
Sparrow
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She no more wanted those

Mar 16 - 2PM (Reply to #6)
Deidre40
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sparrow is right...agree

Mar 16 - 1PM
Hunter
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This is not about cupcakes at

Mar 16 - 1PM
Brit
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cup cakes

Mar 16 - 12PM
TNR1
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I dont' think you

Mar 16 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
Goldie
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That pretty much sums it up TNR1