For those of you who are married, but were having an affair with a Narc...
For those of you who are married, but were having an affair with a Narc...
I have questions for you, but don't know where to start. I am probably way too early in the process to be thinking about this, but I can't help it. I can't speak for any of you, but in my case there are obviously issues in my marriage that led to my having an affair. I have been married for 18 years, but I can't say that I've ever really been happy with my husband. I feel comfortable. I feel safe. I feel taken care of. But I see my husband more as a sibling, or a Dad.
In spite of all that, I never before considered leaving him, or ending the marriage. I never even considered having an affair. That is, until I met the guy who brought me to this site. Not only did I have an affair with him, but I really thought I was going to leave my husband for him.
So now that I am trying to get over the N, I realize that I am going to have to deal with the issues in my marriage too. That seems so overwhelming to me! I feel like I've got 18 months (give or take) that I've got to live through to recover from the N relationship before I can even start to concentrate on fixing my marriage in earnest. I also have to hope my marriage doesn't sustain more damage in the meantime.
Anyway- how are all of you handling this? I am sure there are varying degrees of unhappiness in all of our situations, but I was wondering what you all were going through regarding dealing with your husbands while recovering from your Narc relationships.
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