No contact and children - How do I do it?
No contact and children - How do I do it?
The past 5 months have been so up and down after my husband left me for OW. I tried fighting for the marriage and on many occassions my husband seemed like he was going to come back and we would work on our marriage. In all our conversations and moments of intimacy, he had never told the OW of his plans to try and work things out with me. After OW and myself had several conversations we both realised he was not telling either one of us the whole truth.
One minute he wanted to be with her, next minute it was me. This went on over several weeks and when I had had enough of his to-ing and fro-ing I told him in no uncertain terms that it was over and go and be with the OW. At this stage he became very upset and said he may as well kill himself. I crumbled quickly and talked things through with him. I assumed he would definitely end it with ow now. But realised after speaking to her this was not so.
He went on a soul searching weekend and decided it was ow he wanted to be with. I took it hard but then felt closure. However only 2 days later he came back saying he couldnt move forward with anyone until he had at least given us a go. I was confused and shocked and didnt know what to do but had a few days away with an already organised trip to think and get my head around the new turn around. While I was away I sensed him pulling away again and I knew that this was definitely the last time I would be sucked back in. It has been 5 days and he has not tried to come back. I read letters and emails he wrote to her and they were full of passion and words of deep love. He didnt hide these letters or emails so I dont know if he did that intentionally. But very hard to read how your husband of many years declaring his absolute love to someone else.
How do I keep him out of my life when we have children. There will be functions, sporting events etc where we will both be. I want to talk to him. I feel like I want to see him but am being very strong.
Is my husband a narcissist or am I just struggling with the fact that he doesnt love me anymore. Surely not all men or women who have affairs are narcissists?
Ok, here's my take
Yes, What GeorgiaGirl said.