DAY 6 NC - He defriended me on Fb

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Nov 22 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
Hunter
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Yes, he wants you to call him

Yes, he wants you to call him and say""why would you defriend me.. Boohoo" So he can hurt you yet again.. Move on pretty lady .. It really is time... Hunter
Nov 22 - 5PM (Reply to #9)
Looking Ahead
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Movin on

And you really also need to get rid of everything that has to do with him. EVERYTHING. Pictures, cards, gifts, etc. This was really hard for me because at first I wanted to salvage what I thought was "good" in the relationship, and keep these things. But then I realized that the whole thing was such a sham. And those reminders only brought me pain. It was difficult to do, but getting rid of all that stuff gave me such a sense of freedom and was so empowering. It helps you to keep LOOKING AHEAD, not behind you.
Nov 22 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
RubyWoo
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Thanks, I'll proceed to do

Thanks, I'll proceed to do that over the weekend. I already did put a box full of stuff in the storage room, but I shall clear up a few more things. Also I'm thinking about redecorating the flat a bit, moving some furniture around and stuff!!
Nov 22 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
spinning
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Hunter is telling the truth

in a nutshell, Ruby. Plain and simple. Block his ass. You can do it and we will help you and you will be so happpy that you did. Look, you're about to get a job that you've wanted for a long time. Concentrate on that...don't ALLOW HIM TO TAKE THAT FROM YOU! YOU OWN THAT!! Love, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I FINALLY SAW THE TRUTH AND REALIZE FREAK BOY'S NOT EVEN WORTH A LITTLE SPIN!

spinning

Nov 22 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
RubyWoo
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Thanks girls... I guess I

Thanks girls... I guess I just have to accept he doesn't give a crap about me at all. I wish it wasn't so hard, I feel like dying from pain.
Nov 22 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
Done sourcing
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Ruby, what if he were a

Ruby, what if he were a psycho killer? Would you want the attention of a psycho killer or would you feel safer if that psycho killer was moving on, and didn't give a crap about you. Does this analogy make any sense to you at all. It seems like you are saying you know he sucks, you know he is bad, you know he won't make you happy, but you want him anyways. It really does sound like that. I have been there myself. What do you want? Why do you want it? What are you afraid to let go of? Is it good for you? Will it bring you peace and contentment? What would you tell a friend to do in the same situation? I think denial/bargaining of what is is holding you captive. I recognize it because I have had it myself. Are you truly willing to move on and get angry now, because after denial and bargaining (for scraps) comes anger. ds
Nov 22 - 4PM (Reply to #7)
blueworld
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Ruby

your punishing yourself continuely take a bath paint your toes buy yourself something watch a favorite movie eat your favorite food do something for you honey you have to stop beating yourself after he is gone now your abusing yourself self care sweatheart stop tearing yourself up more heal, stay close to us. your allowing this. you need to switch your focus on to you your beautiful your intelligeint your worthy of every beautiful thing in this life he is one person in this huge world who knows whats going to happen for you < great things> until you pick yourself up, say this sucked and pick up it isnt better for he isnt different with her he is the same piece of shit you dont deserve to suffer stop this hurt and start by doing things for you
Nov 22 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
nomoredenial
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oh good point hunter

Why are you still face book friends. I love how you can see so clearly