LilyS's story
LilyS's story
I met a Narc and had the fairy tale that all ended the moment I questioned him about something. He of course, had tried to separate me from friends, told me some were hitting on him, others were criminals or druggies. He seemed so sincere and cared so much about me that it was easy to fall for it and some of the people in my life that he was speaking ill of weren't the most trustworthy people either. So it created the perfect storm. I got to a point where I'd wake up in the morning with the room spinning because I was so stressed out and unable to eat. He then told me we needed a break because of his job, but continued to call me everyday. Meanwhile, the other people in my life were telling me bad things about him, some true, some false. Looking for the truth was like trying to hold onto sand...impossible.
So after a couple of months apart and me finally starting to get my life back together, he came back. He wasn't as sweet this time, but I guess I craved the attention. I was lonely. That was three months ago. Then, recently, unbeknownst to me, I was D&D'd and he now has a much younger NS.
Right now I am reeling from it, trying to hold onto the notion that nothing he ever said was true, that it was all a ruse for control, which I handed him on a silver platter. So, I'm reading the book now and I have one major problem and that is the NC rule. We are both in the same field in a town where it will be impossible to avoid him (think as if you were at the same private school with your Narc). I try to rise above it and ignore him, but it's hard and seeing him with his NS hurts like hell. Any suggestions?
Yeah, Samn vaknin is a Narc,
This one's right up my alley
Thank you Ruby
Welcome to Narcville.. Many
Thank you Hunter
Ugh!! You need a shrink and