Is there a reason why people don't reply to me?

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Sep 30 - 10AM (Reply to #21)
Nemesis
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sadderbutwiser

Thank you, you are right! xxx
Sep 30 - 8AM
Winter
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Nemesis, your posts are amazing!

And I believe I did post a reply to one of them few days ago exactly because I was so impressed by the metaphor you have used. It is true people tend to answer the person who initiated the thread. When we read someone answers and we like it and it makes us think, we will not always post a reply, but it does not mean we do not appreciate it. Me, I personally don’t feel always comfortable to “evaluate” someone reply even if I truly adore it. Also, quite often, people will reply a post with which they disagree or wants to make a precision. Your posts are so perfect, so deep and right, so that we maybe feel there is nothing to add. We just read it and think. I am not being flattering; this is what I think about your posts. Thank you so much for your precious contribution! Winter
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #18)
Layla
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I agree with Winter!

I LOVE your posts! I really DO! I am in awe at some of our members thoughts and writing styles, yours included. Sometimes, whatever is being said is said so well, there is really nothing I can add to it. Nemesis, sometimes we neglect to acknowledge posts that have particularly moved us in some way, and I thank you for bringing this up today. We all like to know from time to time that our contributions are helpful to someone, in some way. Please don't stop posting, that would be a disadvantage to the forum! love~ Layla
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #19)
Nemesis
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Layla

Thank you. I needed to hear that and will definately keep posting. xxx
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #17)
Nemesis
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Winter

Thank you, yes I do remember now that you did reply the other day. :) I'm feeling very rejected generally at the moment because of the work situation and I just got depressed. If it carries on I will see my doctor. Think I just needed some reassurance that I can still make a difference to people, I really needed to hear what you have just said. You are right, there are lots of reasons why someone might not reply and some reasons might mean something positive. I will keep reminding myself of this. Thank you. xxx
Sep 30 - 7AM
onwithmylife
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NEMESIS

you are the BEST,, do not feel down, I usually do not get many replies tot eh few posts I put up as well. I love you.PM me anytime as I have done to you for guidance............
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #15)
Nemesis
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Thank you

Thank you for cheering me up! Keep in touch. xxx
Sep 30 - 7AM
StudentOfLife
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Hi, Nemesis!

Have you posted your story yet? (I myself have only the beginings of a story posted so far.) I think i have seen a few posts from you; I respond when I have time and mental energy to respond. Sometimes after a long day all i do is read tho, LOL!~as my brain is pretty much mush by then. Will try to be more attentive, my friend!
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #13)
Nemesis
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Hi StudentOfLife

I didn't post on the story bit. I think it's cos I've gone into quite a bit of detail in some of my other posts. Thanks for your reply, it means a lot to me. xxx
Sep 30 - 7AM
Used
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NEMESIS

HI YA,sorry you feel like this, i think when we are down, that everything hurts....sorry about your hours beign cut as well, sometimes it feels like everything goes wrong at the same time.... your thread and goldie,s i loved ,its in my favs....please dont feel like you are not wanted, you are, i have things that people havent answered as well...it happens..you can always pm people as well, including me......chin up, and onward and upward nemesis....
Sep 30 - 7AM (Reply to #8)
Nemesis
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Thank you

It's good to feel wanted here.
Sep 30 - 7AM (Reply to #10)
freaked
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Nemesis, i am glad you started this thread

Nem, i am just feeling Happy because you are feeling wanted by all here just the way i feel good to be chatted with here. i would call our forum THE ONLY PLACE :) this forum is our personal validation that we are human beings with real emotion. oh thank God! briefly i was so depressed (before i came on board here)...that i was some sort of an idiot to have Emotions...and real emotions too. SO GLAD YOU STARTED THIS THREAD.. AND WE COULD ALL FEEL HAPPIER :) sweet friends..wishing everyone happiness and Light at the end of the tunnel.
Sep 30 - 9AM (Reply to #11)
Nemesis
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Thank you!

Yes, I am feeling much better now. xxx
Sep 30 - 7AM (Reply to #9)
freaked
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It's so much happiness to

It's so much happiness to know you are feeling happy now. Dear nemesis, all of us here must be a strong bond for each other. @Used, i loved your analysis...yes..very true. LOVE YOU ALL AT THIS BEAUTIFUL FORUM!!! VINI VIDI VICI.. WE CAME, WE SAW, WE CONQUER. FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I WILL ALWAYS THANK THIS WONDERFUL FORUM WITH SUCH BEAUTIFUL REAL HUMAN BEINGS. i AM GOING TO EAT A TINY BAR OF CHOCOLATE NOW TO CELEBRATE OUR SUPPORT FOR ONE ANOTHER. THIS IS WHAT IS KEEPING EACH OF US GOING AND MOVING FORWARD.
Sep 30 - 6AM
Sparrow
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I am so sorry. I haven't

I am so sorry. I haven't seen your posts. I am not sure when you are posting, maybe they are at times that I am not on. I will make a conscious effort to look for your posts in the future. I am glad you spoke up and brought this to our attention. Again, so sorry.......
Sep 30 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Nemesis
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Thankyou

I appreciate that. Just feeling a bit low at the moment. I've just had my hours drastically cut at work after doing loads of unpaid overtime so feeling rejected all round.
Sep 30 - 5AM
dulcinea441
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I'm new here and I'm just

I'm new here and I'm just catching up on everyone's individual stories. I'm sorry that you aren't getting the responses you'd hoped for, but all I can say is that you strike me, from what little I have read, as an invaluable contributor to this community. In fact, I just read your brilliant post on "NC being the best revenge," as it was shared in Lisa's blog, and it impacted me profoundly in its wisdom and insight. You seem to have such a deep and penetrating grasp of the truth of these matters, and it means everything to a newbie like me, just setting out on the road to healing, to have you for a mentor . All that is to say, thank you. Your words have already meant so much to me and I look forward to reading and learning so much more. D. P.S. If you responded to me in a particular post and I have yet to acknowledge it, it is only because I am a bit behind and have lost track of all the threads I'm engaged in. Everyone's feedback has been of the utmost import to me and I am truly grateful for it.
Sep 30 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
Pride and Shame
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Losing Track of Threads

Dulcinea - I lose track of the threads where I've commented or those that I've posted, too. Anyone have a good strategy here? I do subscribe to a number of users' posts, as well as mine, but can't do that with everyone or I'm deluged!!
Sep 30 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
Nemesis
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Thank you

That means a lot to me.
Sep 30 - 5AM
freaked
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Dear Nemesis

dear nemesis, i have not seen a thread started by you dear. only one i saw is the one which Lisa shared a while ago. Please don't feel like this dear. I have been through this in my real life.. nobody calls me or chats with me..now this was because i was all the time talking about my problem. but here at the forum i don't think that should be a problem because each and everyone of us here is suffereing more or less same problem. Importantly we are able to understand the problem concerning our r/s with the narc/psycho. I hope my reply is of some use to make you feel good? i wouldn't like to know that you left because of response issue. nemesis, now i will try to find your post in share your story section. Hugs freaked