the N claimed to be very hurt by things I have said to him- so I just dont know about this really...it seems if I say something to him that he sees as an insult or attack he would launch into attack mode.but also get very upset and hurt. supposedly he claims that it has made it so he cannot function. not sure how true that is really, but what I do know is he will bring up something that happened to him years prior that he has still not gotten over.
it does seem I get more of a reaction from him if I go silent. as he pretends to worry about me and where I am. but as time goes on...he seems to not really care all that much if I am NC
Thank you for this Sarah-Smile (love your name)! I was having a really bad last few days ( just missing him and a lot of CD) but i've been sticking to NC. I bookmarked this article and will print it out along with the comments!
This put A LOT into perspective for me. Seeing that my exN is more of a sensitive lady's man, who's only friends are women (he's almost like a girl which now that I think about it.....I hated that about him!)...BUT does have another side to him that I know very, very well, I'm soo glad I can get confirmation that i'm doing the right thing.
this articles rocks and I love this forum!
Sara
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the N claimed to be very hurt
Thank you for this