NC Broken - What Should I Have Done?
NC Broken - What Should I Have Done?
I was expecting a call from a friend in AZ last night between 7 and 8 PM. Phone rang and caller ID said only "incoming call" so I picked up and guess who it was?
When I picked up it was awkward at first and he sensed it. But, I wasn't sure it was him. Then he said something like, was I ok with the call. My response was sure, I was just taken by surprise by his call. It almost sounded like he was disappointed that I was ok.
My head was swimming with everything I had learned from the posts here, and I was determined NOT to give him any more NS. If I had hung up on him, I would have done just that.
He called under the pretense of sharing some info with me re his health that he thought I was still interested in. So I listened, kept a smile on my face and in my voice and said very little.
He talked for about 30 minutes not really saying anything other than how someone was so appreciative for his help, his Halloween preparations and purchases and did manage to slip in a comment about his ex which was ostensibly what caused the break-up (now I know better).
From what I have learned here, if I had let him know in any way that he can still upset me, I would have been feeding his need for NS. So, I just remained polite, happy and did not express much interest in what he was saying.
I felt like he was feeling me out trying to guage where my feelings were. He didn't get nasty, arrogant or especially warm. He remained neutral (tone didn't change during the call). What I didn't hear was that smug, "got her" tone in his voice. I think he was disappointed when he hung-up.
Surprisingly, I did not feel the pain I had expected. I think I am beginning to realize that he is nothing like the "false-self" I fell in love with and a lot of it has to do with the many posts and articles I have read here. Thank you all!
Hope I handled this right. I really was taken by surprise by the phone call. I did not expect to hear from him again this soon.
That was 'great work'. You
Why does he still have your
weekends
bewildered
back on the wagon
Seal every crack
Guess He Didn't Like the Phone Call
Doesn't sound like business
oh WHATEVER!!!
Quietude Thanks!
Because Every Interaction is an Attempt to Trap and Manipulate