If d and d is inevitable in every narc relationship, why do they continue to stay with wife, ow, etc....
If d and d is inevitable in every narc relationship, why do they continue to stay with wife, ow, etc....
If, like the topic, "d and d is inevitable", why is it that they continue to stay with either their wife, or the ow? I don't see complete d and d of my hN's ow, I see that he is reaping the benefits of her company, because obviously, he enjoys it. I see that no matter what happened months ago (her calling cops on him,him going to court, finding trouble at work because of it, etc) he never let her go, they were in constant contact, and now, he is back living with her full time. So if d and d is inevitable, why does he continue to stay with her? Why is it they he seems to have found, that he cannot live without her? It is almost as if he has decided, she is who he wants and is now going to work hard to make a life with her, and give her what she wants, him in her bed everynight, them prancing around like the happy couple, like a family, etc....So if his d and d of her back in November was inevitable, then why is it no longer inevitable now? I guess this is what is eating me alive, of all the d and d he did to me in twenty five years, why is she different, why is he not seeking other sources of supply, why is her supply finally the supply he has been searching for, for his entire life? Please help me understand this, im confused and heartsick, I just don't believe he will d and d her again, I know, as of today, he has decided to live there full time, and give up his weekends of freedom as not to loose her, and lets be honest, no one, not even a narc, is where they don't want to be......please talk to me....I know i am repetitive, but need to know.........the truth hurts, no, it kills, but I need to understand all of this...........
Jaycee
shaynasmommy
Jaycee
I think they like HIGH HIGH
Deidre yes the narc is my husband of twenty five years
Jaycee
Hey Diedre, that's good stuff there!