Having any type of contact with our ex while trying to break free will only keep us stuck under their spell. Creating distance is the only way to gain proper perspective and see things as they truly are.
We must break contact in order to really assess the situation. It is this distance that allows us to look at things from the perspective of:
A “player” considering their next move versus a “pawn” waiting to be played.
"You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it.”
~ Albert Einstein