We draw people to us
When WE have unfinished business.
It's the nature of the energy and power within us.
Did you ever notice how you run into people or hear from them when you either were thinking of them or have a "need" or desire?
It's the same thing when your time with them is "truly" over. I'm not talking about them being with someone else, I'm talking about you being done.
When we are done with someone, finished to our core, there is no longer a need or desire to draw them to us.
I often will see someone I used to know one last time, I'll run into them and we both realize, there's nothing there, nothing left.
I call those encounters, closure encounters. You know you have come full circle.
Other times, we run into them and we freak, or feel uncomfortable, or even feel butterflies in our stomachs.
These are simply indications of where WE are still at with them.
Many narcs move on when they know YOU are completely finished with them. They can tell the difference, they have strong radar.
Keeping YOUR door open a crack keeps them knowing you may still be old supply if their need ever arises.
Hating them and fearing them is included in keeping your door open a crack.
I have hundreds of examples of people who got back with their narcs because they still hated or feared them.
It's still in the category of unfinished business. Those emotions are still ties which bind us to the narcissist.
The ultimate goals are self empowerment and indifference.
May not make sense to you now, yet I promise you it will when you get there.
Obviously there are stalkers out there. I'm not talking about them. They require a stronger message, help from law enforcement.
I don't believe that life is about living in fear and others maintaining power and control over us.
I believe in freedom from bondage.
I believe in releasing the ties in us which bond, by doing the inner work.
I don't want to feel the need to run and hide or feel shame when I run into someone from my past.
I believe in self empowerment and self actualization.
If you still feel the need to run and hide, then this person still owns a piece of you, is still living rent free in your being.
I would start there.
What's it going to take, to release this toxic energy in you, and allow you to live a free peaceful life without the ghosts from your past still haunting you?
There is light and life at the end of this tunnel. I know, I have seen many find their way out of the darkness and back into the light.
Together and healing,
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