In order to heal from any emotional abuse, we must surrender ourselves and be willing to reach out to others for help. I know this has certainly been the case for me. It wasn't until I surrendered that I was able to truly heal.
What did I surrender? My ego. I stopped lying to myself that everything was ok. I dropped all inner resistance and started being honest with myself. I feel a sense of inner peace now that I never knew was possible.
To live in denial and avoidance is to prefer death over life. Others may have lied to us for years, but to lie to ourselves is no longer an option. It is no way to live. You can't run from yourself, avoid your feelings, or deny your reality for any longer. No one who is lying to themselves is living in the light of consciousness.
Enlightenment is what we all seek, but in order to achieve this, we first must be honest with ourselves about our situation. We cannot avoid anger and fear. We must feel these feelings, confront them and process them before we can truly move on.
This Wednesday, February 8th we start the first of our 8 week series of support group calls working the Six Steps on The Path Forward.
We should never be afraid to ask for support from others in our quest to evolve. We are all interconnected. I truly believe in order to heal, we must reach out to others. People only hurt themselves when they disconnect or withdraw from others. Being afraid to ask for help only leads to further isolation. Humans cannot thrive in isolation.
Please do not endure the pain of recovering from a narcissist alone. I created The Path Forward Forum precisely for others to know they are not alone in their struggle to accept the person they loved discarded, devalued and abused them emotionally.
Please do not close yourself off from others because you have been hurt. You were born giving and receiving love and you are still capable of loving in every way that is humanly possible. Embrace your ability to feel love and compassion. It truly is a gift.
I am not a religious person, but I am very spiritual. I believe in a higher power, a higher energy that makes the sun come up every day. It is our responsibility to tap into that energy that exists within us. We all possess the energy to make the sun come up in our lives every day. When we stop lying to ourselves, accept what we can and cannot control and begin living in the moment, we finally start to live in a state of consciousness that will bring us happiness. It is that simple. It may sound complicated, but it really is not.
Every day is a gift and every day we wake up, we have a choice. A choice about whether we want to tap into our positive energy or wallow in the negative. Happiness is a choice we all have. Remember, as I always say...
Life is messy....shit happens....it's not what happens to you, but how you respond to it that matters!
I leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
“When I was five years old, my mom told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy.” They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. I told them they didn’t understand life.” ~ John Lennon
You hold the power within to cultivate a life of happiness for yourself, but it is up to you to take control and make that happen. It is my hope that The Path Forward will provide a path for you to take back control of your life, find yourself again and manifest your dreams. Tap into your innate potential. A whole new world is out there waiting for you. Embrace it! You deserve it!!!!
Love & Light,