Text Messages, Romantic gestures? Lazy? Or MAJOR Red Flags. TEXTS do not = Love.

A TEXT Message is not a contract, commitment, date, gift, or proof of ones love and devotion.

It is a text. A few seconds out of someone's day.

Most likely they are avoiding OW (which is also you at times) while texting you. Or some other unsavory behavior.

Texting is one of a cheaters/players/Narcissists favorite tools.

Keeps YOU thinking he is connected to you, regardless to what he is actually doing.

Someone may be texting you while they are in bed with OW.

Babe, I'm texting my boss, my Mom, my brother, my friend, my dog.

It's a win win all over the place for the Narc.

Texting is one of a cheaters/players favorite tools.

Keeps YOU thinking he is connected to you.

By what? A keystroke.

Texts DO NOT = Love.

I no longer bring my cell phone with me and I don't text at all.

I got along fine before I had one. I find it disturbing to my piece of mind. If I go on a trip. I bring it with me and ck my emails for emergencies. Whatever those are.

I think many people these days are somewhat confused about what constitutes an emergency.

Some jackass Narc wanting a quick ego burst/boost sexual hit from me hardly constitutes an emergency.

Texting has become such commonplace these days that it is The Players White Elephant in the room, manipulative tool.

Right there, in everyones hands, beeping, buzzing, and spewing its BS all over the world.

It was a sunny day in Narcville when a text became an acceptable LOVE making tool and an easy excuse/out for a multitude of avoidance behaviors and in some cases, lies.

Heck, one no longer needs to look you in the face OR hear your voice as they are royally screwing you over.

A liars paradise, they don't even need to see or listen to your reaction.

"A brilliant invention for the busy Narcissist on the run."

Text Messaging.

Hands down the Narcissists favorite toy.

Have you ever seen a Narc lose their phone?

It truly is a thing of beauty. For those of you still in doubt. The rageful rantings of a Narc without his cell would be similar to a cop without his gun.

They are completely naked without it.

Texting you sweet love all day is like a guy taking you to 7/11 for dinner. There's not much substance to the event.

Actions; not words.

Texting is not really much of an action for a Narc.

It's like getting your Christmas present from The Dollar Tree. If you even got one.

A text message is NOT an acceptable gift.

Boundaries. Self esteem. Setting the bar higher. Allowing them to do the work. God knows WE do the work. We kiss their asses yet often expect so little in return.

Plus

Sshhhhh.......

I'll let you in on a little secret.

Being available to a man 24/7 via text makes you look easy and eventually causes them to lose respect for you.

There, I said it.

Can't tell you how often I hear:

"I text him all day or and night and when we are together he treats me like shit!!!"

Surprise! Surprise! Surprise!

Make them do the work, if they want your time and company; they will show you in ACTIONS.

I was in a class the other night and some guy was texting all through class. At some point, I mentioned that I don't bring my cell when I go out.

You could have heard a pin drop.

Someone said, why not?

I said, it disturbs my focus, peace of mind, and experiencing the now.

The people I am with right now deserve my full attention.

The NOW.

Reflections,

Goldie~

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Mar 12 - 6PM
Ready2heal
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I have experienced this too.

Feb 21 - 6AM
StrongasDandelion
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Fantastic well said !

Feb 21 - 8AM (Reply to #14)
TDbfree
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Yep, once the N started

Feb 16 - 12PM
Libi
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Thanks you so much for this

Nov 6 - 5PM
Ophelia
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And when the texts dwindle

Nov 19 - 9AM (Reply to #11)
Milan (not verified)
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So true

Nov 6 - 12AM
FreeMe
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Goldie- You always hit the home run!

Nov 3 - 8AM
hope29
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I love this :) it couldn't of

Oct 30 - 1PM
MissDaisy
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Love this !

Oct 27 - 7PM
Laci423
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Great blog!

Oct 27 - 5PM
talktothehand
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great post Goldie

Oct 27 - 2PM
ZanShin
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Debunking texts

Nov 13 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
maya2012 (not verified)
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Whittled Down Expectations

Oct 27 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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Yes, I went through the cellphone withdrawal thing as well

Oct 27 - 12PM
Hunter
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Narcs are lazy aren't they??

Oct 27 - 11AM
Used
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Goldie