Perspective is Everything When Recovering from a Narcissist!

Having any type of contact with our ex while trying to break free will only keep us stuck under their spell. Creating distance is the only way to gain proper perspective and see things as they truly are.

We must break contact in order to really assess the situation. It is this distance that allows us to look at things from the perspective of:

A “player” considering their next move versus a “pawn” waiting to be played.

"You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it.”
~ Albert Einstein

It's all about perspective! In addition to establishing No Contact this way, it is important we step back and put our problems into perspective as well. If we do not keep things in perspective, we run the risk of being consumed by our issues instead of seizing our opportunities in life.

Last week was a difficult week for me and my mom sent me an e-mail that really helped me put everything into perspective. I want to share this message with all of you now. It came in the form of a powerpoint with music and beautiful images, but in order to share it here, I'm retyping it. If anyone would like the powerpoint, just shoot me an e-mail and I will send it to you. It's very powerful.

It’s called "Lightning in a Jar"

If you could fit the entire population of the world into a village consisting of 100 people, maintaining the proportions of all the people living on Earth, that village would consist of:

57 Asians
21 Europeans
14 Americans (North, Central and South)
8 Africans

80 would live in poverty
70 would be illiterate
50 would suffer from hunger and malnutrition
1 would be dying
1 would be being born
1 would own a computer
1 would have a university degree

Oh, and 6 people would possess 59% of the wealth and they would all come from the USA.

If we looked at the world this way, the need for acceptance and understanding would be obvious. But consider again the following:

If you woke up this morning in good health, you have more luck than one million people, who won't live through the week.

If you have never experienced the horror of war, the solitude of prison, the pain of torture or starvation, then you are better off than 500 million people.

If you can go to your place of worship without fear that someone will assault or kill you, then you are luckier than 3 billion (that's right) people.

If you have a full fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are wealthier than 75% of the world's population.

If you currently have money in the bank, in your wallet and a few coins in your purse, you are one of 8 of the privileged few amongst the 100 people in the world.

If your parents are still alive and still married, you are a rare individual.

And so?

Work like you don't need the money.

Love like nobody has ever hurt you.

Dance like nobody is watching.

Sing like nobody is listening.

Live as if this was paradise on Earth.

I'm not minimizing your pain. I know it hurts like hell right now, but it’s important to remember our blessings when we’re feeling betrayed or hurt by others. This message my mom sent definitely helped me put things in perspective and I hope it helps you as well. xoxo

Start your week with an "Attitude of Gratitude" !!!!

Apr 28 - 9AM
Free-at-Last's picture

Lightning in a Jar

Someone converted the PowerPoint and uploaded it to YouTube: Enjoy!
Feb 22 - 2PM
CarolKittyGale (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

I've had this sent to me via

I've had this sent to me via e-mail before and I think it is fabulous. I have always been grateful for what I have in my life and I think it is what has got me through the sad times in my life, counting my blessings...still it is nice to read it again. Thank you Lisa
Feb 23 - 1AM (Reply to #1)
M's picture

attitude of gratitude

so true... I even recall a SpongeBob episode on that subject!!