Why is UNDERSTANDING it, often, so difficult?
Step One: Understanding it (them)
When in a relationship with a PD, trying to figure it out and get to, just WHAT is going on with them, with yourself, and the relationship is often just one big bundle of confusion and pain.
We try to talk it out with them and that doesn't seem to get us anywhere.
We may ask others if they can make any sense of it, many simply say: if you are not happy or he is treating you badly, then just get out of it. Stop seeing him, move on, be done with it, he is not worth it, you deserve better, there are so many other guys out there who may really love you and be good to you.
Sounds good, YET, you may still FEEL or THINK, that there must be some answers, solutions, CURES.