Narcissist Recovery Blog

The Rise of the Narcissistic Leader

Narcissism has become a sign of our times. You probably don’t need anyone to point this out to you. Nor does one need to be told that working for a narcissistic boss can have negative effects on your mental health. However, did you know that a new study from the University of Manchester’s Business School has found that those who work for narcissistic leaders are more likely to engage in counter-productive work behavior of their own?

Valentine's Day Gift

Valentine’s Day means different things to different people.  Some dismiss it is as nothing more than a Hallmark holiday while others have grand expectations of what their loved ones should do to express their love on the fourteenth of February.

Either way you choose to look at it, I’d like to give you an opportunity to share the gift that keeps on giving with your loved ones…..knowledge.  Knowledge is power as we always say.  I’ve been writing about narcissism for close to ten years now and what never ceases to amaze me is the lack of knowledge out there on this topic. 

#BetsyDevos #NormalizingNarcissism #NarcissismEpidemic

I know I said I'm not turning my page into a political platform, but I will make this one exception because I believe public education is an important issue for us all. My mom spent her career in public education (teaching and as a Principal) and if she had not e-mailed me about Betsy Devos, I would not know why she is trending in the news today........below is why:

Normalizing Narcissism

I haven't posted a blog in almost 3 years. In that time, it has been wonderful to see so many of you build awareness on narcissism through social media, word of mouth and even by writing your own books - Congrats to Shahida Arabi and Becky Joyce Reed on their books and a HUGE thank you and congrats to Goldie for continuing to help so many folks here through her one-on-one coaching!!!!

The Sex Addicted Narcissist

Sometimes YOU are the last to know. Or you sense it, yet have no proof. Or you know it, yet choose to stay in denial. Or you find out and he promises to stop or change. Not likely in this life time.

Is your narcissist a sex addict and you don't know it or are in denial?

My narcissist never cheated on me is a common war cry on here.

Are you sure about this?

You don't need to SEE it happening to make it true.

Many narcissists are clever with keeping their sex addiction from you.

Often, you are the last to know.

So she thought she was special..

So she thought she was special. Joyce Mitchell, was apparently made to feel special by convicted violent murderer and reported Psychopath , Richard Matt. So special that she considered assisting him, and may have, in his prison break with convicted law enforcement killer, David Sweat. The extent of her involvement is unknown at this time. See details below. These allegations are reported by CNN and the Daily Mail, UK.

The Text Message. A Brilliant Invention for the Narcissist.....

"A brilliant invention for the busy Narcissist on the run." Now we have the text which disappears after reading. The narcissist was jumping for joy the day that app was launched. The players paradise, no longer will there be any evidence in print.

Text Messages, Romantic gestures? Lazy? Or MAJOR Red Flags. TEXTS do not = Love.

A TEXT Message is not a contract, commitment, date, gift, or proof of ones love and devotion.

It is a text. A few seconds out of someone's day.

Most likely they are avoiding OW (which is also you at times) while texting you. Or some other unsavory behavior.

Texting is one of a cheaters/players/Narcissists favorite tools.

Keeps YOU thinking he is connected to you, regardless to what he is actually doing.

So you think the sex was intense with the Narcissist? What is great sex anyway?

Great sex does not necessarily always translate into two people in a deeply loving connection. This is clearly illustrated in the mixed messages, words not matching the actions, type of a relationship with a narcissist.

INTENSITY is often misinterpreted for many of us and perceived as a substitute for INTIMACY (love).

This intensity stems from the tension created in us by the narcissist. This tension is received in our bodies, minds, and hearts, as anxiety, emptiness, and pain triggered by the mind games (push/pull).