The POWER Professions and "Credibility" Factor

This is in answer to a members comment regarding shock at a Psychologist posting his profile on a dating site.

Dating sites have members of most any profession.

They are not limited to any particular profession. Psychologist's may be just as disturbed as anyone else. Profession has NOTHING to do with someone's mental or emotional state. PD's are evident in all professions. The ministry, medical, education, ect.... As a matter of fact we have many on here who have been involved with such men in such professions.

Wherever you, go they are there and you particularly find preditors in "power" professions. Look at all the Catholic priests and teachers who have violated children and women. I know adult women who were violated by ministers, priests, ect... Women who have been hit on by their therapists, doctors, childrens teachers, lawyers, and so on. They look for the vulnerable. The vulnerable situation. You may be facing difficulty in your life and they come across as: "trying to help you."

My last X was an auto mechanic and he began by fixing my car for FREE and of course the rest was history. I'll pay to have work done on my house and car from now on, thank you. The point is, I needed the help at the time and there he was. Mechanic is not a power position of course until your car won't start and then it becomes one and they know it.

Wherever you see a inequality of power you are going to see some preditors. What a perfect set up for a professional preditor anyway because the women are going to say:

Oh goody I found a Doctor, Lawyer, Psychologist, teacher, respected coach, law enforcement, a well known celebrity, a business executive, politician, online (or anywhere) and he is GREAT, and he likes ME, lucky me. This is until you find out he is not WHO he "appears" to be. It is a perfect set up to fool your victims because for some, what the profession may be, gains your trust for who you THINK they may be. A built in credibility factor to suck you in and "hook you."

If you find yourself in one of these types of relationships and you are reluctant to leave because you think you may have a "GOOD CATCH", think again.

MANY a man in a power position has taken many a woman down and they know how to do it better than most.

Be careful with that type of thinking, it has fooled many many women right into the depths of hell.

But he was a Doctor................. A Christian.............. A volunteer helping needy children.................

Means NOTHING.

God bless,
Goldie

Of course many in these professions ARE NOT preditors, however, just because they are in these professions, DOES NOT by any stretch exempt them from any PD, addiction, or any other disorders or bad behaviors.

March 9, 2013 - 6:31pm
AprilD
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My XN

April 7, 2012 - 3:36pm
Lisa E. Scott
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Excellent point, Goldie!

April 7, 2012 - 4:58pm (Reply to #36)
Goldie
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Many of us are preened as children to "trust" the professional

April 5, 2012 - 12:33pm
Monarch
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Mine is not in a power

April 5, 2012 - 2:56pm (Reply to #32)
Goldie
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Some people consider Actor to be a power position

April 6, 2012 - 11:24pm (Reply to #33)
no more an echo
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Aren't they all...?

April 7, 2012 - 4:38pm (Reply to #34)
Goldie
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Lol, No more an echo, yes they are all ACTORS

April 4, 2012 - 12:32am
rosedewittbukater
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two words

April 4, 2012 - 6:03am (Reply to #30)
Goldie
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YES

April 3, 2012 - 8:08pm
Ladydb123
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So agree

April 3, 2012 - 1:24pm
ClearingMyMind
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To: Used Re: cerebral N w/adoring XW

April 3, 2012 - 1:37pm (Reply to #26)
Used
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cleraringmymind

April 3, 2012 - 2:15pm (Reply to #27)
ClearingMyMind
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Wow, 14 years. I'm lucky w

April 1, 2012 - 4:00pm
no more an echo
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Preacher-Man

April 1, 2012 - 10:42pm (Reply to #7)
Goldie
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Yes, Preacher-Man

April 2, 2012 - 12:23pm (Reply to #8)
no more an echo
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thanks, Goldie/reader beware

April 3, 2012 - 7:56am (Reply to #24)
Goldie
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The group dynamic is an important factor as well

April 3, 2012 - 1:41am (Reply to #9)
ClearingMyMind
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Professor

April 3, 2012 - 8:03am (Reply to #21)
Goldie
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Cerebral narcs can cheat

April 3, 2012 - 1:55pm (Reply to #22)
ClearingMyMind
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Preening

April 3, 2012 - 4:31pm (Reply to #23)
Goldie
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Yes it is ego deflating to realize that we are viewed as supply

April 3, 2012 - 3:30am (Reply to #10)
no more an echo
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Devil's Advocate

April 3, 2012 - 8:11am (Reply to #11)
Goldie
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No, as many of us have learned

April 3, 2012 - 12:54pm (Reply to #12)
ClearingMyMind
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Cerebral

April 6, 2012 - 11:47pm (Reply to #19)
no more an echo
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He flirted with married women

March 9, 2013 - 6:24pm (Reply to #20)
AprilD
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Wow

April 3, 2012 - 1:15pm (Reply to #15)
BtrflyGrl
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Site Adds

April 3, 2012 - 4:24pm (Reply to #18)
Goldie
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Basically this was set up a short while ago

April 3, 2012 - 1:20pm (Reply to #16)
Used
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btrflygrl

April 3, 2012 - 1:24pm (Reply to #17)
BtrflyGrl
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April 3, 2012 - 12:58pm (Reply to #13)
Used
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exw. texts him, he is

April 3, 2012 - 4:27pm (Reply to #14)
Goldie
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I agree with Used

April 1, 2012 - 6:02am
Shellybee
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This is soooo right!

April 2, 2012 - 12:46pm (Reply to #5)
Goldie
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"All that glitters is NOT gold"

April 1, 2012 - 2:11am
abreva
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Psychiatrist

April 2, 2012 - 12:47pm (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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They are the worst

April 1, 2012 - 12:15am
bgirl
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Absolutely. I fell into this

April 2, 2012 - 12:51pm (Reply to #1)
Goldie
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Yes it is easy to fall into their trap