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I have a question about my ex-N. He was told by the courts he cannot have visitation with our son for 6 months till he goes for therapy. The courts also told him HE is to go for the therapy & if/when our son is wanting to see him the therapist will let the courts know.(My son is in counseling due to his father. ) Then they will start to have sessions together. Well the ex-N being the way he is made an appointment with the clinic & told them he has a session with his son & therapist. The clinic knows what is going on & when the ex-N showed up they explained that he was to get therapy first before he can even attempt to start sessions with our son. He insisted there was a court order, there wasn't. He told the receptionist he will be back with papers from his lawyer. He never returned or called to reschedule. There were no papers stating court ordered sessions with my son. My question is, do you think he will go back to therapy for himself to fix his relationship with his son or is he to into himself to be bothered?? I'm hoping he will just disappear. My son testified against him in Judge's chambers. I am thankful that the courts went my way. I need to protect my son.
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Most typical NPD do not go to therapy
March 15, 2012 - 12:11pm — goldieUnless there is something in it for them. He will only go if he needs you or his son in his life for some reason. They do not go to get better, they do not see the problem as theirs no matter when they tell you when in manipulation mode.
He has not complied with the courts so you are good to go for now in terms of protecting your son. The odds of him going to therapy for himself and sticking with it for any length of time are slim to nil. He will only go if he needs to go to get something on the other end and even that is rare.
I think you have done all the right things to protect your son and getting the courts involved it the only option for most of us because their behaviors when left to their own devices are all about manipulation and more wreckage and damage to their loved one's.
God bless,
Goldie