Especially after 7 years. I began to feel better at about the 6 month mark after the first time he left. He was in jail for 9 months and I went strict NC. No letters, phone calls, or dealings with anyone he knew. I felt great by 9 months and then I relapsed when he got out of jail. During that first 6 months I cried for him and was a mess for several months and then went into anger mode and then after awhile when I had released those pent up feelings I thought about him less and less.

The second time it was much easier because by then I knew who he was and had already got him out of my system for the most part by round two. I just did not feel that same at that point and of course he had not changed at all aside from the fact that he was not as angry after jail or course this is when he began to smoke crack again. A behavior I had never seen him engage in until then. The second time he was out of my system in 2 months.

Of course this was after doing over a year of intense work on myself throught the forum and the steps.

What are you doing for YOU in terms of the steps, posting, reading ect...?

Your progress will be more rapid if as you work the steps.

Any way you slice it, after a PD you will still go through the feelings for several months after they are gone, there is not quick fix.

God bless,
Goldie