Thank you Lisa for sharing! The knowledge and information you provided in your website has truly been a blessing...it made me get out of bed and finally realize "it wasnt ME!"...now I can use this new found knowledge and share my experience so that others can realize they are not alone as well as make better choices in who can enter their lives from this point forward...thank you!
Thanks for writing such a readable book, Lisa. I've read so much on NPD lately but your work was so succinct and personal (and brave!)- it was like having coffee with a good friend."
I am so glad I read The Path Forward! It was my awakening! I have taken away his power and given myself the gift of myself again!
Lisa thanks for adding me! 8 months after leaving my narc husband I can say my life has improved unbelievably!!! I’ve connected all the dots and realize that I couldn’t have changed the course of horrendous events that I was faced with earlier this year. My sham marriage was successfully annulled from that awful twisted man and I feel so much better! I still visit your website regularly to keep my levels of sanity in check! Thanks for your support.
My daughter's boyfriend's mom gave me your book, The Path Forward. If I did not receive it, I would still be in a violently abusive marriage. The first 4 pages was my life and I thought...hell no, I'm outta here....The Narc is going nuts cause he has no control over me any longer...Thank you.... I was constantly going back and forth and it was wearing me down so much and took a toll on the kids as well. After reading that book; actually I read it 3 times within an hour to make sure I was actually reading correctly. I cried bitterly. a week later I packed my bags, filled my car to the roof and left...never to return. Now my kids are happier (24 & 22) and I live a full life...I'm so happy, it's unreal.
The Path Forward book was tremendously helpful! Lisa really offered a LOT of helpful advice in the later chapters regarding the obsessing thoughts in my head and how to deal with it. If you haven't read it yet, I really recommend that you do.
"My life is slowly coming back to normal Lisa. The CD is gone and with it the obsession. He still lives rental free in my head to some degree, but guess what, I don´t care anymore. Eventually he will move out and get lost. I am laughing again, being there for my kids, holding head high and starting to really love myself, maybe for the first time in my life. I would almost say I am grateful for all the pain this brought me, without it I would never have taken a closer look at myself gaining this knowledge and setting boundaries for my feelings and needs. Still I have some way to go to get really healed but I am considering it now being my life goal. Its a life long healing journey every day! I lost some friends on this path and in this aftermath, but these are "friends" who pretended to be there but actually were enjoying my suffering. It made them feel better about themselves. Well, this I am telling you is stuff many of us survivors went through in this process and it hurt almost as much as the narcs, incomprehensible, being revictimized. Wanted to share. You were right all the time. Pain is temporary. NC and pride is forever."
Lisa E. Scott's painstaking work in reliving and recording exactly the narcissist’ rhetoric and actions will sadly, gently ring true for many unsuspecting victims caught in the Narcissistic Tsunami. But at some point, submerged reality will surface to reveal the impending devastation to the victim’s sanity, self-confidence, safe home life, workplace success, social relationships, or perhaps even a child's dream of tomorrow. How many tsunamis can one survive? It is the resolute actions next taken, on the heels of realization, which charts the course of our collective future success....or failure.
~ Denise Martine, Author of The One Dollar Divorce, www.theonedollardivorce.com.
In the midst of horrific anguish while freshly used, devalued, and discarded with the precision of a surgeon's scalpel in my marital relationship, I voraciously devoured reading material searching for answers to my trek through the bowels of the Twilight Zone. I was lost, alone, and terrified by the turn my life had taken, leaving me emotionally devastated and financially decimated. I stumbled onto a site with Lisa E. Scott's book, It's All About Him, and this became the turning point for my own self-redemption and healing. Lisa frees the confusion and offers a plausible and educated evaluation with the assignment of the term, narcissist. Ms. Scott shows herself to be a real woman of flesh and blood who struggled with her own angst in similar relationships and offers well researched data on narcissism peppered with stories of others falling into the dark abyss with this chameleon of a manipulator. She takes you by the hand to allow each survivor reading her works a path of comprehension, knowledge that we are not alone, and the amazingly awe-inspiring feeling that we are not damaged goods who sought this painful excursion into an alien realm. Much more than this gift of hope and understanding are her accompanying blog sites filled with camaraderie and the deep and earnest desire to aid each other reclaim our self-esteem and lives. Lisa E. Scott has another powerful book following the awareness of classification, The Path Forward. This manual clearly and effectively proposes essential steps for gradational movement into recovery. Lisa becomes a valued confidante and friend in our individualized journeys to dropping the shackles of fear and self-doubt as we painstakingly incorporate mental and emotional purging and growth. With intellect, warmth, and heartfelt compassion, Lisa has touched my being and essence. The courage to broach the topic of narcissism beyond simple defined traits and to sound the alarm that these disordered presences cannot be redeemed and must be avoided for one's sanity and productivity stands as her hallmark. Her writings changed my perception of this dark territory and offered me a lifeline away from unaware therapists and unknowledgable friends and family whose judgments left me drowning in uncertainty. Lisa brings herself, her generosity of being, and her indomitable spirit to “ride shotgun” as she coaches us to reach for aid, trust our instincts, and to live fully and consciously. She inspired me to write my own story. My life has been altered. I am no longer afraid and although not the same innocent I once was, I have the courage to stand for my convictions and to be fully myself, warts and all. Whether or not romance enters my future, I am OK and look toward tomorrows with fresh discernment and even an eagerness. There is nothing to hide and no attempts necessary to fit someone else's vision of me in a particular blueprint. Lisa's works transformed my vision of being a desolate “sensitive” into one of personal strength and integrity, one step at a time. My gratitude is immeasurable.
~ Becky Reed / Anaconda, MT