GOLDIE'S TESTIMONIALS:"What you describe here goes way, way beyond codependency. What you describe is love addiction and most therapists, no matter how good they may be in other areas, really are not equipped to provide the very specialized, targeted treatment that someone with a severe love addiction needs. Unfortunately, I know this all too well, having spent almost a decade in therapy and more years in al-anon. I did get better. A lot better. But it wasn't enough. And it wasn't until I found this site and had a one on one with Goldie and then joined her group that I REALLY got better. And was able to break my addiction to the narc and toxic people in general. There is a certain kind of magic in the combination of really wanting to and being willing to fix myself and her very unique expertise in this area that completely changed my life. I'm not going to lie and tell you it was easy. It wasn't. But it was worth it. Because I am worth it. And so are you. Goldie is the absolute best there is. Bar none. Period. Group. One on ones. I have a life I never dreamed was possible because of Goldie. She is an expert in targeted treatment, trauma, PTSD, toxic relationship recovery, family of origin issues. All of it. The whole giant mess. Her group is intense. Targeted towards each member to get at the heart of the specifics of each member's issues. ~It'sFinallyTime~ "It has been a year since I started group with you Goldie. Knowledge is power. Your insight into how the pattern plays out is so good to know. Last year at this time I could not think clearly. I was crying a lot and could barely function. All I knew was I had left that relationship in march and was still having real trouble with my self. And so I signed up and started sharing. I learned how similar all our tales of woe are. I met some incredible courageous women and I learned to trust. I am so much better now.. No not perfect but I have large amounts of no drama time. I have forgiven myself. I have understood the man I was with is sick.. But he is ok with how he is ., and I don't need to fix him. I am learning to be open with my family and friends. I have a relationship with God. All this from joining group. If any of you guys are questioning whether the groups are valuable I can only say yes!! Join today and begin your journey of recovery from an abusive situation." ~Taralyn~ "Goldie coaching is informational and she mentors us in recovery and empowerment. Her intuitive approach explores the way you perceive your life, allowing you to let go of the abusive nature in your relationships. There is peace of mind after narc and Goldie leads you back to your inner self. Your true self who repels abuse naturally." ~Tammy~ "Although I am a psychologist for many years I have found an old friend of 30 years to have NPD. We recently reunited and I am under the silent treatment and really need to talk to an expert in the area about all this. Thanks Goldie." ~Dr. Johnson~ "What a wonderful blog, Goldie! Thank you so much for sharing. You are such a dear friend to me and feels like we've been friends forever. Hard to believe it was four years ago we initially connected. We have a bond I know will last a lifetime and I hope you know how much I cherish our sisterhood. Words cannot express how grateful I am to you for all you do to support everyone here on the forum on a daily basis and through your weekly support group. Those of you asking what you can do to get more closure and move one, PLEASE do yourself a favor and register for Goldie's weekly support group. It is the best thing you can do for yourself and you OWE it to yourself to sign-up. Don't waste another minute suffering alone in pain. Sign-up now for Goldie's weekly support group by clicking here:"
Love & Light, ~Lisa E Scott~
"Goldie you helped me so much today. Thank you. I already feel like a big weight has been lifted and I know what I've got to do next. I have said this to Willow in an email a while after we did your support group....
.....on my death bed I will look back and remember Goldie as one of a few people in my life who had a massively positive impact and changed my life for the better.
You are so very good at what you do. Thanks and Love to you" ~Miss H~
"Life changing. I feel 100% better. The best thing I ever did was to join the Support Group. I did some One on One's with Goldie first. She totally understands what we are thinking and feeling, she gets it! ~Cowgirl~
" I have shifted my focus and obsessive thinking from the narcissist to myself in Goldie's Support Group. I didn't know what to expect, nervous, and wondered how this would help. Goldie mapped it out for us and my fears disappeared, she's a great guide. We address and understand WHY we stayed, HOW we allowed our boundaries to be trampled, self esteem issues. We identify patterns and behavior, and learn what we need to do differently! I see changes in my interaction with the world. I'm in the moment. I am peaceful and in control for the first time in a very long time! Goldie had such a profound impact on me." ~kitka~
"I have had so many insights about myself and my very long relationship (if you can call it that...) with the narc in Goldie's Support Group. Goldie is wonderful! She will kindly hold your feet to the fire, and instinctively knows exactly where your head's at, even if you have no idea. The other members are very supportive, as well. I would recommend this to anyone who has started or been on this journey, because very few people out there understand what we've gone through, and how difficult it is to recover. And stay out of it." ~Newme63~
"I am grateful, Goldie helped me to change my destructive thinking patterns and has helped me discover the strong, confident woman who was hiding under all of that pain and misery. Goldie, thank you for all of the time you've spent working with me on this and so much more. I would NOT have grown the way I have or feel as good as I do now if not for you. I've had an amazing facilitator and teacher for the last year, Ms. Goldie. ~It'sFinallyTime~
"Getting to a good place in my life after what happened is mainly thanks to Goldie and the support group. It turned my life around, not just deprogramming from narc abuse but also figuring out so much about how my upbringing made me ideal prey for a narc! In some ways I think I needed for that narc r'ship to happen to get me to heal all the things about me that I didn't realise needed fixing!" ~Laura~
"I just want to impress upon the newbies how AMAZING you are, Goldie. You are truly an expert on narcissism. Your insights and expertise are mind-boggling. After I read your posts I always say to myself "wow she really knows this subject inside and out." It's as if you knew my narcissist personally. Your sessions/truly eye-opening. I encourage anyone on here to book a one-on-one with you. THANK YOU for helping so many of us!!" ~Sadderbutwiser~
"I spent a large 4-figure sum on therapy with the xPD which got us nowhere. Goldie's Support Group it is without a shadow of a doubt the best bargain in support group/therapy land. If you want to WORK HARD so you can get healthy, figure out who you really are underneath it all, and feel heard and respected no matter what crazy bs comes out of your mouth: SIGN UP NOW. It works if you work it folks, and we're worth it." ~Trixy~
"Support is here for you now with Goldie, an expert in this field with years of experience working in small groups with proven success." ~Introspection~
"I had a one on one with Goldie yesterday and it did wonders for me. If you haven't done one yet, do it! I promise you will see things you never saw before. I also promise when you hang up that phone you will sense calmness again and you will realize there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Today I choose me." ~Movingforwardnow~
"To anyone thinking of a one to one with Goldie, don't think. Email her and do it! An absolutely inspirational lady who truly understands. Her approach is fantastic. My nerves in talking to a stranger and her patience with me and getting me to listen in a kind way was truly admirable. She speaks common sense to your fogged brain A big thank you to the lovely Goldie." ~Snowflake~
"Get on The Path Forward Now with Goldie!! The best therapy is knowing I'm not alone. Goldie knows. Talking to others who don't "get it" is a waste of energy. Goldie gives you this blessing, a deeper support system than the forum alone. Process the emotions you are feeling to move forward. Goldie says "Together we can do what we cannot do alone" Join Goldie for immediate relief from your pain and suffering. To happiness you deserve in life! Do not waste any more energy in "stuck" or "reverse" you owe it to yourself now!" ~Lisa E. Scott~
"Goldie saved my life." ~Freaked~
"The woman is good." ~JaneMarie~
"She's the best." ~Hunter~
"She really puts things in perspective. Love her!!!" ~alicat~
"I can't rate Goldie highly enough, it is worth the money for a one to one. Goldie I'm going to book another appointment with you for follow-up. One session like you is worth 20 with my therapist." ~Jax~
"We are so very blessed to have your wisdom and guidance in helping us grow and heal! Goldie, you have such a tremendous gift and we will be forever thankful that you have chosen to use it to help others recover from the devastation caused by our N/P experiences! You are a true Godsend! A bright shining light at the end of a long dark tunnel!" ~Much Love xo Willow~
"A big bravo to you Goldie! I have been here quite awhile now and I have NEVER seen any authentic members fail who have participated in your group! 100% success rate!!! A truly magnificent gift!" ~Janie53~
" Best decision joining Goldie's Support Group. The change in me was dramatic and quick. Moving forward in HUGE leaps and bounds. Group was a needed safe haven after the trauma of narc abuse. I have a real understanding that I didn't have before, on me and who I am. 4 months NC, it feels like longer, I feel indifference towards him now. Nowhere else can you receive support specifically targeted at moving fwd after a Narc relationship. Goldie is very smart, personable and funny, she also calls you out on your BS or stuff you're holding onto that keeps you from moving fwd! If you're thinking about it but nervous or not sure, just do it. I have made some friends for life. It was the best move I ever made to join the Support Group. I could have spent millions on therapists and wouldn't have made near the progress I have made with Goldie and my group buddies, :)" ~Missy~
"Honestly, Goldie's group is something I wish I can continuously revisit over and over. She's an Eagle. She pushes us eaglets out the nest. Don't worry she will swoop down and catch you before you SPLAT. She will repeat many times with patience until you get it. Eventually, Mother Eagle Goldie will let go and you will SOAR and didn't know you had it in you! Love you Goldie!!! I REALLY DO and the group!!!" ~L2A~
"I totally recommend Goldie's Support a Group to everyone and if you've been around a while and feel stuck, you want to move on, you do the reading etc but willing it to happen doesn't necessarily make it happen. And until you can tackle the real cause, nothing will happen. That's where I found the support group really helpful in challenging patterns of relationships. In talking to people working through the REAL stuff, the FOO stuff that unites us all. That's the key to the door." ~talktothehand
"Goldie's support group is the very best thing I have ever done for myself. I truly feel that my life might not have had any possibility of becoming rewarding, fulfilling, and happy without Goldie. I have seen many therapists, some very good, over the years, and not one has compared to Goldie. Her work is TARGETED. We get right to the point about how we ended up with a narc and how to move forward, immediately. I'm not saying it's easy; I'm saying she knows how to get you there. She completely understands how it feels as she herself has been through it- she pushes you to help yourself but is non judgmental and supportive. I haven't met anyone with her intuitive ability to read us through the phone line and figure out exactly what needs to be said. Friendships develop within the group. I have an understanding of how I got here and more importantly, where I'm headed. I have hope! Goldie's support group changed my life forever. I am so grateful I decided to sign up!" ~LisaD~
"I could have not gotten out of my relationship with my N without Goldie's group. It has been over 2 months now no contact and I am healthier and happier than ever. Hard days still, but it's manageable and before, it was not. You can do it - but you will need help from those who have been there." ~SkinnyBuffallo~
"I love this site. My one-on-one with Goldie was a God send and the hour with her was more helpful than 5 therapy sessions with 2 different therapists." ~Savingmyself~ Scheduling a One on One with Goldie: Individual Session:
Support Packages I also works with many, individually who are unable to attend the 12 week Support Group or prefer the One on One VIP experience. Support Packages: 3 individual 1 hour sessions will be 325.00 or you may choose 6 individual 1 hour sessions for 625.00. Please let me know which package you prefer and I will email you a direct link to Paypal, with this pricing for you. Also provide me with your time zone, and best available days and times. firstname.lastname@example.org Together and strong, Goldie
Thank you Lisa for sharing! The knowledge and information you provided in your website has truly been a blessing...it made me get out of bed and finally realize "it wasnt ME!"...now I can use this new found knowledge and share my experience so that others can realize they are not alone as well as make better choices in who can enter their lives from this point forward...thank you!
Thanks for writing such a readable book, Lisa. I've read so much on NPD lately but your work was so succinct and personal (and brave!)- it was like having coffee with a good friend."
I am so glad I read The Path Forward! It was my awakening! I have taken away his power and given myself the gift of myself again!
Lisa thanks for adding me! 8 months after leaving my narc husband I can say my life has improved unbelievably!!! I’ve connected all the dots and realize that I couldn’t have changed the course of horrendous events that I was faced with earlier this year. My sham marriage was successfully annulled from that awful twisted man and I feel so much better! I still visit your website regularly to keep my levels of sanity in check! Thanks for your support.
My daughter's boyfriend's mom gave me your book, The Path Forward. If I did not receive it, I would still be in a violently abusive marriage. The first 4 pages was my life and I thought...hell no, I'm outta here....The Narc is going nuts cause he has no control over me any longer...Thank you.... I was constantly going back and forth and it was wearing me down so much and took a toll on the kids as well. After reading that book; actually I read it 3 times within an hour to make sure I was actually reading correctly. I cried bitterly. a week later I packed my bags, filled my car to the roof and left...never to return. Now my kids are happier (24 & 22) and I live a full life...I'm so happy, it's unreal.
The Path Forward book was tremendously helpful! Lisa really offered a LOT of helpful advice in the later chapters regarding the obsessing thoughts in my head and how to deal with it. If you haven't read it yet, I really recommend that you do.
"My life is slowly coming back to normal Lisa. The CD is gone and with it the obsession. He still lives rental free in my head to some degree, but guess what, I don´t care anymore. Eventually he will move out and get lost. I am laughing again, being there for my kids, holding head high and starting to really love myself, maybe for the first time in my life. I would almost say I am grateful for all the pain this brought me, without it I would never have taken a closer look at myself gaining this knowledge and setting boundaries for my feelings and needs. Still I have some way to go to get really healed but I am considering it now being my life goal. Its a life long healing journey every day! I lost some friends on this path and in this aftermath, but these are "friends" who pretended to be there but actually were enjoying my suffering. It made them feel better about themselves. Well, this I am telling you is stuff many of us survivors went through in this process and it hurt almost as much as the narcs, incomprehensible, being revictimized. Wanted to share. You were right all the time. Pain is temporary. NC and pride is forever."
Lisa E. Scott's painstaking work in reliving and recording exactly the narcissist’ rhetoric and actions will sadly, gently ring true for many unsuspecting victims caught in the Narcissistic Tsunami. But at some point, submerged reality will surface to reveal the impending devastation to the victim’s sanity, self-confidence, safe home life, workplace success, social relationships, or perhaps even a child's dream of tomorrow. How many tsunamis can one survive? It is the resolute actions next taken, on the heels of realization, which charts the course of our collective future success....or failure.
~ Denise Martine, Author of The One Dollar Divorce, www.theonedollardivorce.com.
In the midst of horrific anguish while freshly used, devalued, and discarded with the precision of a surgeon's scalpel in my marital relationship, I voraciously devoured reading material searching for answers to my trek through the bowels of the Twilight Zone. I was lost, alone, and terrified by the turn my life had taken, leaving me emotionally devastated and financially decimated. I stumbled onto a site with Lisa E. Scott's book, It's All About Him, and this became the turning point for my own self-redemption and healing. Lisa frees the confusion and offers a plausible and educated evaluation with the assignment of the term, narcissist. Ms. Scott shows herself to be a real woman of flesh and blood who struggled with her own angst in similar relationships and offers well researched data on narcissism peppered with stories of others falling into the dark abyss with this chameleon of a manipulator. She takes you by the hand to allow each survivor reading her works a path of comprehension, knowledge that we are not alone, and the amazingly awe-inspiring feeling that we are not damaged goods who sought this painful excursion into an alien realm. Much more than this gift of hope and understanding are her accompanying blog sites filled with camaraderie and the deep and earnest desire to aid each other reclaim our self-esteem and lives. Lisa E. Scott has another powerful book following the awareness of classification, The Path Forward. This manual clearly and effectively proposes essential steps for gradational movement into recovery. Lisa becomes a valued confidante and friend in our individualized journeys to dropping the shackles of fear and self-doubt as we painstakingly incorporate mental and emotional purging and growth. With intellect, warmth, and heartfelt compassion, Lisa has touched my being and essence. The courage to broach the topic of narcissism beyond simple defined traits and to sound the alarm that these disordered presences cannot be redeemed and must be avoided for one's sanity and productivity stands as her hallmark. Her writings changed my perception of this dark territory and offered me a lifeline away from unaware therapists and unknowledgable friends and family whose judgments left me drowning in uncertainty. Lisa brings herself, her generosity of being, and her indomitable spirit to “ride shotgun” as she coaches us to reach for aid, trust our instincts, and to live fully and consciously. She inspired me to write my own story. My life has been altered. I am no longer afraid and although not the same innocent I once was, I have the courage to stand for my convictions and to be fully myself, warts and all. Whether or not romance enters my future, I am OK and look toward tomorrows with fresh discernment and even an eagerness. There is nothing to hide and no attempts necessary to fit someone else's vision of me in a particular blueprint. Lisa's works transformed my vision of being a desolate “sensitive” into one of personal strength and integrity, one step at a time. My gratitude is immeasurable.
~ Becky Reed / Anaconda, MT