Guide to Six Steps Download
Hi. I'm new to this site and I registered and received my Guide to Six Steps download, however, I'm in the middle of reading it and can no longer download it? Am I doing something wrong?
Please advise. Thank you.
Working the Steps?
Hello and welcome to The Path Forward. My name is Goldie and I am the forum's lead moderator. I am available to assist you with the 6 Steps of recovery from a relationship with a Narcissist. This process is often painful and many are left with unanswered questions and a sense of "What just hit me?" "How can I be feeling this badly when I was "so loved" in the beginning?" and "How can I get my life back on track and recover from this confusing, painful ordeal?"
You must remember you have done nothing wrong, but believe in the good nature of another person. Unfortunately, this person has shown their true colors and you are now left with many questions. This section of the forum is devoted to answering your questions because we know you have many.
Here we will talk about what it means to be "Working the Steps" and the different recovery tools we find helpful in healing from a relationship with a Narcissist. Allowing yourself to process and feel your emotions through creative outlets as well as writing your "Goodbye Letter" are important aspects of the 6 Step Recovery process we believe with help you on the path forward. Please post your questions here and I will respond. Many of the questions which you have will also be helpful to other members. We are glad you found our community of support and can assure you that being here is the first step on the Path Forward.
Members, submit your question to Goldie!
You must remember you have done nothing wrong, but believe in the good nature of another person. Unfortunately, this person has shown their true colors and you are now left with many questions. This section of the forum is devoted to answering your questions because we know you have many.
Here we will talk about what it means to be "Working the Steps" and the different recovery tools we find helpful in healing from a relationship with a Narcissist. Allowing yourself to process and feel your emotions through creative outlets as well as writing your "Goodbye Letter" are important aspects of the 6 Step Recovery process we believe with help you on the path forward. Please post your questions here and I will respond. Many of the questions which you have will also be helpful to other members. We are glad you found our community of support and can assure you that being here is the first step on the Path Forward.
Members, submit your question to Goldie!
Consequences
What happens when u point out to a N that they are a narrow and you have figured them out? How would they typically react to this and what can I expect?
Is it normal that he accuses me of being a narc?
I am new here and feel like I am going crazy. I am in the middle of divorcing who I think is a narc. He is convinced I am one. We went to a psychiatrist.....he wanted to treat his OCD....in the end he said he didn't need the medication despite the psychiatrist saying he needed it for two years, then he went back to tell the psychiatrist that I was the one causing him so much stress as I was a Narc. The psychiatrists told us both that I wasn't and his reply to me later was that I had fooled the psychiatrist! I was very good at what I do and I had tricked the psychiatrist. That was when I said I had to get out of the marriage although there is A LOT more to this story.
Why do they seem obsessed with love?
My XN was obsessed with finding love. Even before we dated he would write pretty deep stuff on FB about love and finding his soulmate. When the girl before me ended things he was posting some pretty deep stuff about love and heartbreak. I think this is part of what drew me to him to begin with. Do they actually think they are so in love with every girl? I mean we know in the beginning it's infatuation and that they are in love with the idea if being loved but why do they seem so obsessed with finding "their one true love" a common phrase I use to hear.
Why do they always come back?
If they are constantly pushing you away, or letting you get close and then giving you the silent treatment, why at some point do they always try to make contact? Will that ever end? I have threatened police action, sued him, even physically attacked him, he has been physically abusive for quite a while and one night I snapped, and he was back a week later.
Next Steps
My exNarc has finally pushed me to where I couldn't take his control anymore. We were trying to negotiate our Marital Separation Agreement (MSA) and he kept wanting things from me. He basically told me I had to give him all the evidence I had on him in regards to his infidelities or he wouldn't file our taxes as married filing joint at the end of the year. I was so sick and tired of him pushing the goal post. I had given him enough.
No Contact
My husband (the Narc) will fully be out of my physical space 1 week from today. He is already out of my house but needs to move all of his things, which are stored in the garage, into his rental. He is moving in with his next victim (one of his five mistresses). Due to tax issues I won't be filing for divorce until July 10th. My exNarc and I have hired a lawyer to help us through the divorce process and we have agreed on a marital separation agreement that we are waiting to sign and notarize (waiting on lawyer for this). We are trying to do this amicably.
He's pissed
I just got a phone call from my exN. He asked if I had talked to his friends about our situation (filing for divorce because of his infidelities). I told him I spoke to one of his friends wives who had reached out to me when she got wind of the situation. He immediately got pissed at me. I sunk back into the quiet person I become when I'm around him. He's at my house right now packing up the remainder of his things to move to the garage before his big move next Friday. He couldn't let the conversation end there. I just received an email from him stating I was to cease all communication with "his friends" going forward. The email was rude but typical of him.
New, and wondering if this sounds like a narc?
i recently broke up with my suspected narc of 2 years. we lived together most of that time, and i have 2 kids, not from him. Countless times ive caught him with very inappropriate encounters with other females, 2 times which led to me throwing him out, and then eventually feeling like i cannot live without him, and then getting him back.
Work narc
My story posted on worknarc site. I wished him well and we were civil but this weekend something triggered with his silent treatment- so I sent a message saying I still think he is my friend and if his intent is to hurt me he has succeeded completely and I congratulated him for being so mean. I am unhappy with myself. I will see him at work this week. If I do should I continue being civil or give him the cold shoulder and go NC?