He said the new woman is everything he's ever wanted and all he'll ever need.

Stellarue's picture
January 15, 2012 - 8:30pm — Stellarue

One of the things he said that haunts me still to this day is:

"I'll never treat her like I treated you, she's everything I've ever wanted and all I'll ever need.

This still makes me cry, it hurts so bad. I did everything for him, including 3-somes with other women and sex with other couples. I'm ashamed of myself. To hear him make that statement, made me sick to my stomach. Now I'm believe she gets to have the relationship that I wanted with him :(

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clarity123's picture

My guy said something similar

February 3, 2012 - 1:47pm — clarity123

After he told me he was sad that our relationship was over and that he was going to propose on nye. He said ( after knowing her barely a month) that she was much more reasonable and logical than I was and he would never have the same problems with her as he had with me. I think that's his way of saying she's a lot dumber than you and will never question me and what I do. He did add that he said that she thinks he's absolutely amazing. So I get a guilt trip thinking if I did do something wrong? But talking to all my friends who knew him from high school , he's apparently been " shady" and not trustworthy since then. Everyone was shocked when they saw that I was dating him. I had no clue about his past but everyone knew but weren't sure if they should tell me. I'm glad I has my doubts and glad I figured him out. Guess that's proof they never change :(

ichooselife's picture

"I'll never treat her like I treated you"

January 18, 2012 - 10:59pm — ichooselife

Wow! Thats so mean!!!!

No decent man ever would say that to you. What a cunning and evil way to push his issues off on you.
See, I guess they know in their gut that they affect our self-asteem so then they can go in for the kill with a comment like that.

Nope, he can try to be a different person with her if he wants but I can tell what a mean person he is just from that one sentence.Maybe he's half right...maybe he'll end up treating her worse.
No need to worry about her. No woman will truly have him because he's incredibly mean. Those kind of men don't bond.

You'lle see in time that this was not about you. Its not your fault. HE is the one with the issue.

By the way, my exN used to tell me that i was everything he wanted/needed. But in time, his behavior toward me told me he didnt mean it. They are about a centimeter deep.

Im sorry for your pain...and he's an idiot.

goldie's picture

We look at actions NOT WORDS with the PD's

January 18, 2012 - 10:28pm — goldie

I understand that you are in pain right now over this and that is understandable. It is important for you to look at the truth. A man who engages in threesomes and sex with other couples and sucks his girlfriend into this behavior under the GUISE of her proving how much she loves him by doing this IS NOT NOT NOT the type of man who is capable of LOVING ANY WOMAN.

Hear this loud and clear. Sex is for his own gratification and he has no respect for any of you. He said those words specifically to hurt you on his way out because this is what they do, hurt people.

He is in no way shape or form going to treat her any better of differently than you. He is selfish and self serving and has no regard for the love of the core "couple" you and he or she and he.

She will NEVER be enough for him, he will need more just like he did with you.

He is still pushing your buttons by that ridiculous statement. I don't even know the guy and I know that he is lying because a man interested in mulitple partners will always be interested in multiple partners that is not going to change.

Once you get over his words and their hurtful affect on you, one day you are going to be thanking your lucky stars that you did not wind up with this sadist, because saying something like this to you after all that you endured with this man is just vile.

You will heal from this if you begin to change your thinking about him and realize that he brainwashed you and had you under a spell, similar to a cult leader. When you engage from his lie's and begin to see the truth of who and what he is the sun will begin to shine for you again.

God bless,
Goldie