Is he different?

Dizzy2's picture

He told me he had narcissistic tendencies.

I called him out after 3 months of the roller coaster. He said he was diagnosed bipolar 2 yers ago and was going to get help because he wanted to stop treating poeple like sh**.

He went to a therapist who told him he wasn't bipolar he was depressed and had narcissistic tendencies. He just told me this before Christmas. I didn't know what it meant. He said he liked this guy because the therapist said he wasn't going to sugar coat anything.

Everything was great all through Christmas. New years weekend he invited me to go away with another couple. I got sick and couldn't go. He went without me and refused to answer any of my texts or calls. When I said "I guess this is it" and "I Love You and wish you the best" that got his attention. He broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for love and he was so very, very sorry to have hurt me, I didn't deserve this and so on.

Well of course this was not the response I wanted and I would send him the occasional text saying hi or something just to keep the lines of communication open over the past few weeks. This led to us going out to dinner with his friends, him confessing he was depressed and then us taking in a couple of movies together.

He said he wants to change. That was 5 days ago and I haven't heard from him since. My question is since he was the one who initiated therapy and confessed his condition to me does this make him any different from the other narcissists on here? Has anyone ever had this happen to them?

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goldie's picture

No he is not different

He sounds like the typical PD's we also have encountered.
Talk is cheap; words speak louder than words. Watch the ACTIONS; not the words.

Just because he SAYS he is into his theapy does not mean he is going to change. Also just because someone is a therapist DOES NOT MEAN they are good at diagnoising PD's. That is an art in itself which generally takes years of experiences. MANY MANY people have been misdiagnoised or not diagnoised by inexperienced therapists. I would take all of that with a grain of salt. YOU have bipolar, no you don't, you have narc tendencies. They have NO CLUE unless they do a complete background history on the client which would also INCLUDE speaking with significant others in their life.

Also don't forget, they lie lie lie and how do you even know what his therapist really said, this is all coming from HIM and we all know they are not reliable sources of the truth.

He is not making much of an effort here. He says one thing and then you do not hear from him for days. I am sure this is extremely painful for you. The truth of the matter is, he IS giving you his answers. He is NOT able to LOVE in anyway which resembles what YOU want and NEED.

Wecome to the site. Keep reading and posting and see what applies to you.

God bless,
Goldie

Dizzy2's picture

Thanks

Thanks Goldie,

I will keep looking and reading. And yes this is extremely painful for me. I am in therapy now. I just want the pain and anxiety to stop.

Thank you for responding.