What happened?

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#1 May 7 - 1AM
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What happened?

I met him on Plenty of Fish. I contacted him. We chatted on the site, and talked on the phone soon after. He was very, very easy to talk to. We talked for quite a while. We met a couple of days later, for lunch at a Thai restaurant. I had plans that were cancelled, it was a last minute date. We spent 10 hours together that day. We talked the entire time, about all kinds of things. He's an excellent conversationalist, very intelligent and engaging. We had a very intense 5 week relationship. We texted and talked to each all the time. We were talking about marriage, took our kids to do stuff together. It was very fast but seemed very good. At the same time I felt things were moving too fast. I'd say "I love you" back to him, even though I knew we didn't really know each other. Also, he'd say what a wonderful time he was having, the most fun ever, but it felt off.
It was absolutely great though, we really talked for hours and hours, and adored each other. I think he's super interesting, smart, fun, funny, sexy, kind and gentle, considerate, loving, I could go on... a gentleman.
So, one day he sent me a text, that his son was watching this cartoon on Netflix. He asked if my child has ever watched it. I checked it out, and said "No, I censor what she's allowed to watch." Then I texted a list of rules I have for my child, very little sugar, chores, etc. Pretty basic stuff, really. Kids need boundaries. I mean, I still have to tell her to bathe and brush her teeth.... He took it as an insult, but did not tell me that. He just quit texting or talking to me for a few days. It was weird, but okay. I was busy anyhow. So when he finally answered a call, he told me all this stuff I'd said that hurt his feelings. Like: I told him he dressed like a bum on the weekends (he's an attorney and wears suits all week), he thought I thought he was a bad parent, there's more I can't think of at the moment. But there was a whole list. I had no idea, most of it was just petty, I hadn't even noticed.
We're both older, he said he'd had a vasectomy, and I've started peri-menopause. So, even though we used birth control, I had my period late. This is normal ( I guess) as I've started peri-menopause recently. So, I let him know I hadn't started my period, and did not even know if I was late. It had been 43 days between periods. He called and was very loving and kind, and even excited. I told him I was not that excited, that we're not married, I'm already a single parent, and things didn't seem to be working out between us. But he was back to very considerate, kind, loving gentleman.
The next morning I started my period (Thank you God!), and let him know. He had mentioned wanting to do stuff together, so I attempted to make plans, but he said he does not want to do anything. So that's about it. Pretty much overnight, I went from being in a relationship with a wonderful man, and was planning a future with him, to nothing.
Whoever is reading this, do you think he's a narcissist? I can't diagnose this. I'm so confused about the whole thing!

May 14 - 2PM
Lily1
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Im no expert but yes!!!

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