They always come back, 20 yrs later!!!!

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#1 January 10, 2017 - 12:11pm

They always come back, 20 yrs later!!!!

Today is the day of starting NC!! The last 5 months have sucked the life out of me. I finally realized he is an overt somatic narcissist. He was my first love, dated when I was 16-20. The relationship ended terribly and within a yr of breaking up he was married. I never saw him or spoke again until 20 yrs later, thanks to Facebook. He reached out through messenger on my 40th birthday. I should of never responded but I did. His timing couldn't of been better for him. I was separated from my husband after 13 yrs of marriage and he just happened to be getting divorced. The messaging turned into talking on the phone and that turned into meeting face to face. We live 12 hrs away from one another but he is still in my hometown and I go back a few times a yr to see friends. The meeting was surreal. And immediately old feelings surfaced. Before I knew it I was in over my head. I returned home and the relationship got more intense. He wanted to see me again. So five wks later I returned. That was the beginning of the D&D. He got what he wanted. But he had manipulated me into thinking that he needed space because he was just getting out of a terrible marriage with a crazy women. Then hovering started and hasn't stopped. But I can't do it anymore. He knows me so well and what buttons to push because of our history. Sending old photos and screenshotting old songs. And meanwhile, I know he's got a harem of ladies. I know I'm probably one of his greatest supplies, I've made it easy on him because of the long distance and knowing him for so long. I woke up today and said no more! He literally has every single trait, it is mind blowing. I really hope some of the younger girls read this, the ones getting out of their first love relationships and hoping they will come back someday a changed person. They don't, if anything they are worse. And the fog is worse because you think they are back to be with you after all these yrs and they have so much control of bringing up good times from the past. So be prepared 10-20 yrs from now and don't respond!!!