saturn's story

HELP!

I met this really exciting, talented (both musically and artistic) guy who brought me into a world I had never known before. I had not been in a relationship for a long time so this was really great. But there was a really vulnerable side to him - child like and I found myself doing more and more for him.

It seemed as if I was always running around doing things for him, catering for his needs, going out only when he wanted, listening to his problems daily- but something in me loved him and loved doing things for him. I then began to realise that this was becoming really one sided. I found he never really thanked me for anything I did and eventually it became expected. If for some reason I couldn't do it he would make me feel really bad and guilty.

He would make comments like - he doesn't believe in love, nor staying with one person long term. He began to have a really negative view on life and, as he suffered a few physical problems,i would try and comfort him but his situation was always worse than anyone elses.

He would make comments like he was the greatest musician, the greatest artist - yes he was very good but..

Then one night I asked him if he loved me and he replied what is love - it doesn't exist? I think he was feeling pressured at this stage and a week later he said that he needed to concentrate on his health and couldn't go on with our relationship. I was devastated as I had fallen in love. We talked about it later and decided to remain friends.

He was happy to stay this way with no commitment but was still happy to be intimate. Two years later I am still here finding myself doing more and more for him and him doing less and less for me. I want to but cannot break away from all this. Even though I really have tried I seem to be unable to walk away.

Can anyone help me as I know its me that needs the help as I cannot change the way he is.