I'm a Newcomer...a very angry newcomer.

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#1 Jul 22 - 9AM
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I'm a Newcomer...a very angry newcomer.

My name is Diana. I’m 36 and have a 2yr old boy named Joey. I am newly divorced from the most narcissistic, emotionally abusive jerk I’ve ever met. We met in college and dated. Reconnected in 2009 and dated exclusively (with the exception of his affairs and hookers, of course). Had our son August 2013. Married October 2013. I kicked him out of the house June 2014 (via a protective order). And the divorce was finalized. July 2015. The entirety of our relationship he did what he wanted when he wanted how he wanted and I’ve come to find out I know so very little about him. He was such a sneak and a liar and a cheat. When I was 6m pregnant he went on a guys trip and texted his room number to some chick at a club. When I was 8m pregnant I uncovered an affair with a woman 20 years older than him (she’s rich…that’s all he cares about). I can’t stand hearing from people well why did you marry him etc etc. I am beating myself up about that enough. I had come out of one divorce and was determined to not fail at another relationship. He drained our joint account of all but $47 when he left. He stole $10k out of my business account, which I started for HIM October 2014 b/c I thought he was depressed…nope, he was suffering Percocet withdrawal after having spent close to $30k on his addiction. He has destroyed the a/c at my house, costing me 6 weeks of 90+ deg temps in my house and $9k to replace the entire hvac unit. He drained my pool. He broke into my jeep and stole the radio. He violated the protective order too many times to count but somehow always got away with it. He terrorized the new gentleman I started to date and threatened his and the safety of his three children. Threatened to not stop till we are dead. Hired a PI to follow me around (to work, how exciting). He has returned Joey to me 14 times with injuries, two requiring hospital visits. Never offered an explanation for either injury. Diaper rash is a constant. CPS has been involved. He doesn’t consider the safety of my son (no child seat, rides him around with no bike seat/helmet/shoes, etc). His family beat my car w baseball bats with me and joey inside it last year, joey was 11mth old. His family blames me for the demise of our marriage b/c I’m the one who left. They said if he wasn’t bringing hookers around my son, how does it affect him. They said so what if he calls hookers, I can be unhappily married. The list goes on and on.

The reason I am here is b/c I am so ANGRY. I don’t know why I thought that with the finalization of my divorce I would have my joy back. I don’t. Before our separation I had 0 debt and only savings. Now just 14mths later I have no savings and $105k in debt, all related to this divorce. If he thought I wouldn’t go to the ends of this earth to protect my innocent son, he thought wrong. I’ve consulted with a bankruptcy attorney who recommended Chapter 7. I am furious at how he deals with things. He calls me a lying cunt whore as he holds our son. He travels with his 55 year old girlfriend (the one he had an affair with when I was 8m pregnant), leaving my son in the care of random people, without telling me…all the while I am at home crying myself to sleep b/c I miss my son so much. I have lost the purpose in my life…motherhood defines me and that very simple thing has been snatched away from me. WHY did he do that to me. WHY did I marry him in the first place. WHY did I chose him to have a child with. WHY did he make this divorce so freaking nasty. All I did was give give give give give all the time give and the thanks I got in return was death threats, total destruction and bankruptcy. I never got so much as an apology from him…only a “you better smarten up and get back here and work on this marriage”

I want to be happy again. I want to be me again. I hate myself. I hate all the lost time with my child. I know him like the back of my hand. Every single thing about him, I know so very well. FIFTY PERCENT OF THE TIME. How crushing.

Jul 28 - 12AM
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