Can't take this anymore...
Can't take this anymore...
I posted a comment similar to this lament over at Barbara's site, but I feel like I need all the help I can get right now.
After getting the N out of my house, and going through a period of relief, empowerment, and a great deal of personal growth, I find I am right back to the same old soul sickness that defined my relationship while I was living with the man. Not just soul sickness, but I literally feel like I could or should puke.
Now my daughter seems to be turning away from me and towards him, and the secrecy around this, the lies, and the morsels of attention intermixed with disrespect I get from her, feel so very frighteningly like the way it was with her father. She is not him. I respect and love her, but it feels the same to me. It feels like betrayal, again. I was very young and alone when I had her. He didn't come along until she was around 5. So the irony is almost tragic.
It was wonderful to lose him, and it still is, but to lose my daughter? That seems unendurable to me. And that is where I'm at right now. The pain is overwhelming. I don't know how to handle it, or what to do to take care of myself.
When will this end? Is there hope in sight? Do we have to lose everything to the N?
PTSD
NO! You don't have to lose everything to the N