Was my ex as narc

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#1 January 8, 2017 - 3:49pm

Was my ex as narc

My bf and i werw together for 16 months . I think he might have been a narc but im not sure... hes 31 im 33. We met on a dating site and i fell hard for him. In the beginning it was amazing. He was so into me. Told me after 4 months i was his soul mate. Took me away to nice hotels. Bought me flowers nice gifts. Very lovey dovey and affectionate great sex life. He even told me when we had arguments it turned him on and made him want me more.
Anyway after about 8 months things went a bit strange. He stopped making as much effort and told me i would have to make more effort to come to his... he started saying he was tired after work and didnt want to make as much effort.... this could be dowm to some arguing..? He lived with his parents i live alone thats why i prefered him coming to mine.... anyway when we did have arguments he would give me the silent treatment didnt not like getting his own way.. a few times after arguing he would end the relationship and i would always chase him to get us back together... this time its over for good... i thoughy we were so in love... i agree we had some rocky times with some arguing but im so confused how it went from me being his world to him doing this... he use to tell me that he thought he wasnt responsible enough for a relationship and that i deserve better. Then the next minute telling me im petty and i assume things and its my fault.... i admit i could maybe be petty but if i said or did anything that hurt or upset him he would make such a big deal out of it or punish me with silent treatment... or tell me its over.... he use to say to me that he thinks hes a bit f.....d up... he told me the week before the break up that im the one he wants to spend his life with then after we had an arguement its over again..... any thoughts about his behaviour.