Question to Those Here Who Feel They Really Know How A Narcissist Tick

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#1 May 26 - 5PM
sadderbutwiser
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Question to Those Here Who Feel They Really Know How A Narcissist Tick

My wife, Sadderbutwiser, has been a member here for about five years. She became too close, or better yet, too sucked in by her Narc who lived in our neighborhood. It went on for a couple of years until my wife was able to find this site (and I also said it either ends or we cannot go on). To go into all of the details this would become a novel so I am just going to fast forward.
Approximately a little over a month ago he called her (out of the blue) and during a 10 minute conversation he mention either contemplating to commit suicide or something of the like. My wife felt it was sincere based on the fact that his childhood life, alcoholic mother, abandonment, foster care, etc. has all the characteristics that could eventually lead to that. I. on the other hand (once I found out and blew up) said that he just sucked you in again, as they all so well know how to do. He had no “current” woman in his life and so he finds one he can cycle back to - but needed a pitch. My belief is my wife forgot Narc 101 – NO CONTACT NO MATTER WHAT. I know I sound as if I am posing a question like it is not affecting me. Yes I am extremely pissed off and have no problem saying that if he were to commit suicide, so be it. Resolves my problems! I am sure in time my wife and I will work through it.
OK all of you out there - what do you think. Was he the master manipulator or the suicidal puppy. (Don’t worry, neither of us is going to hold it over the head of the other. We actually posed another question back several years ago that I lost on and did listen to all of your advice given at that time – even though I didn’t want to.)

May 29 - 11AM
Goldie
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I'm sorry