Odd Case?

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#1 Dec 15 - 6AM
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Odd Case?

I am fairly certain that I have just ended a relationship with a Narcissist. Everything seems to fit perfectly except one thing. He is not one to look for "new supply" His first wife left after a 18 year cycle of abuse. He kicker her out 20 times, according to her. Yes, we have spoken and she has been a HUGE support to me. However, he is not a cheat or a womanizing type at all. When she left him he genuinely went into a deep depression, sought God, went through counseling, etc. He remained single for 10 years. I WILL say that he engages in a lot of superficial flirty type behavior... the girls at the bank all love him. They all gush to me about my "cowboy" and the ladies at church all "took care of him"... young and old, when his wife left him. He cried the victim role to anyone who would listen. He willingly GAVE HER EVERYTHING when she left, only to live ever so dramatically in a bare house and tell the world that she "left him with nothing" Boo Hoo. But he remained single. He never wanted to date. Friends and family all verified this. He is a workaholic and that is his drug of choice. He'd rather throw himself into work than a relationship, as he knows he sucks at relationships. I believe, anyhow. Seems he'd rather the superficial stuff. Grandma makes him breakfast every morning and tells him how wonderful he is... bakes him pies... cooks him meals. Ladies from church will bake or bring him stuff. Seems he is happy with the surface stuff which keeps him feeling wonderful. We were a "blind date" set up. He hesitated for a long time before he even agreed that he to his cousin that he'd And he had been going on 4 years single. By the time we made a commitment to marry (which by the way only happened because I met someone else who I fell for that swept me off my feet... suddenly my narc couldn't live without me and we needed to marry right away.) BIG MISTAKE I made by falling for his BS. But now that I am in discard phase... he pushed me away and did everything in his power to make me WANT to leave and now is being sooooo nice, giving me everything (bare house again) and he wants to "help" me any way he can. But I honestly think deep and real relationships exhaust the living daylights out of him, and I don't truly believe he will be rushing to find fresh supply. People were shocked when he even began with me. So... maybe in a few years or something. Or... maybe I am wrong? But, I just don't see that part to ring true for him. Seems he is content to work, work, work, and only get "fed" by the superficial stuff. Is this ever the case??

Dec 16 - 10AM
Miss NY
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Makes total sense. As for the

Dec 16 - 9AM
Goldie
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All Narcissists are not sex addicts

Dec 16 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
Miss NY
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Also... didn't mean that they

Dec 15 - 6AM
Miss NY
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Sorry for all my typos... at