On Mirroring and Cognitive Dissonance

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On Mirroring and Cognitive Dissonance

On Mirroring and Cognitive Dissonance

He does not take on your interests to make himself look more interesting, he mirrors back to you, who you are, so that YOU will find him more like you and feel like you have met your soulmate.

If he takes on your interests, YOU, will believe that he is just like you.

Many take to this to the extreme in the beginning, they like everything you like so that you will believe you have met the man of your dreams. Your likes, your hobbies, your kids, and so on. It's an act to suck you in. To create a feeling in YOU, that you have so much in common or that he loves you so much, he is willing to take on your life. As we all know, it is short lived.

It's manipulation 101, give them want they want or become what they want, so that you can hook them, early on in the game. Of course once you are hooked, all bets are off. Yes, this is extremely common with Narcissists, either this, or they go the other way. They play difficult and make you do all the work to KEEP them satisfied and happy.

It's the abuse buffet, they do what works with you. If sucking up works, this is what they do, if creating a challenge works better with you, this is what they do.

They mirror back to you, YOUR issues, YOUR dreams and hopes in the beginning and later it becomes their mirroring back to you what they are guilty of and having you question your sanity/gas lighting.

Some women are looking for togetherness, others are conditioned to seek challenge, or distance.

It's a mixed bag. They give you what you are looking for, the patterns which lie in you.

The good and the bad.

This is why, it is so frustrating. You are being played from the get go. They will trigger every family of origin issue or longing you have deep down inside, because once they have you hooked, they use your weaknesses, and longings against you.

Suck them in and then spit them out, this is the very nature of abuse.

Creates a toxic cycle, which many have difficulty understanding and detangling themselves from emotionally because you have been played at your core, your very essence.

This is where all the cognitive dissonance stems from.

We work on sorting this out and releasing, and resolving this dichotomy for you in my Support Groups.

Together and Healing,
Goldie

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Goldie