Goldie, HELP ME, I feel like it would be too harsh or rude to stop anwering his calls and texts
Goldie, HELP ME, I feel like it would be too harsh or rude to stop anwering his calls and texts
Dear Goldie,
All of my friends and family tell me to STOP ANSWERING my N's calls... DON'T RESPOND to his texts. They tell me to BLOCK his number or TURN OFF my phone. I can't do any of these things, though I know I should. What is wrong with me? They are all so frustrated with me... I feel like I'm going insane.
It's not like the outcome of communicating with him is positive... he only puts me down, or yells at me, or tells me all the problems I have. Hell, yesterday he forwarded me a pornographic video text of a man slapping a woman hard in the face because she stopped to take a breather while "pleasing" him. He told me it was the funniest text he's gotten in 6 months. When I didn't laugh, he proceeded to tell me I don't think anything is funny (which isn't true) and that I have issues if I don't think that's funny. All that text did is creep me out. And, the other day when I was sharing how he hurt my feelings by yelling at me because I simply asked what he was up to that day, he LAUGHED at me and said, "well, I hope you understand now why I did it."
What the hell do I need to do to make myself cut him out completely? I'm so tired of all this. But, I feel like it would be too harsh or rude to just suddenly block him or turn off my phone, or stop answering his calls. I feel like I owe it to him to respond. Please help!
Does this sound like YOU? I frequently receive Q&A's like this one. So basically it is OK to be rude to yourself and allow yourself to be lied to, cheated on, and treated like a pawn, YET, it is rude to stop talking with your abuser?
I have been told that it is harsh and cruel to ignore the abuser. That the abuser deserves your respect, that you were not brought up to ignore people regardless to how they treat you.
Hmmmmm, who has the problem here? The abuser or you?
IF you are using the: I don't want to be rude excuse, the problem clearly has more to do with self esteem, self love, self worthiness, and self actualization.
OR
Perhaps it is simply an excuse to feed your addiction. We come up with many excuses in order to stay in the game.
What are your excuses?
Much love,
Together and Healing,
Goldie
Goldie.. You can lead a horse
Hunter
Goldie