Forgive?

I am in a phase now that the hate and shame is passed for great deal.

Sometimes I even think. I can forgive him. Because he is just who he is and he can't help himself. I can also forgive myself. Because it's not my fault that a skilled manipulator lured me into the something.

However I off course will not forgive the things that he has done. And I will not talk to him ever again. But as a person, from this safe distance, I can forgive him. At least the hate in me will go away and that makes me feel better.

However, to be honest, I also find sometimes (when things get tough, and I remember the lies while seeming so nice and sweet) comfort in the notion that he will never be happy. But this emotion is really disappearing.

In my ideal world, he would heal (I know that it's not possible) , be happy and not hurt anyone else or himself anymore.
And this way of thinking is becoming stronger and stronger. And the negative emotion (finding comfort in him not being happy) is almost completely gone.

Is this a good thing?