I ask because my ex was malicious, contemptuous when breaking up with me. Initially he was just ignoring me, giving me the silent treatment. Whenever I would try to talk to him he would say hurtful things. I had no ides that he wanted to end the relationship until just recently when it was explained to me that he was acting like this because he wanted me to break up with him. It doesn't make any sense to me because he had plenty of opportunity to end the relationship. The most obvious was when I asked him if he wanted to break up and he got upset and proceeded to threaten me by telling me that if I mentioned a break up again, that it would be over and I can go on with my life. Isn't this confusing? When I showed up to his house, that provoked him to finally end it in the most humiliating and painful way possible. I don't understand it, because he didn't have to treat me that way to break up with me, all he had to do was say it.