shared custody - managing the flow of info from child to Narc

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#1 Mar 25 - 9AM
ForeverFreedom
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shared custody - managing the flow of info from child to Narc

I am asking your advice/experience for how you manage the flow of info from your child/children to the ex-spouse/Narc-parent.

I am torn about having an open/honest relationship with my child & having child go tell Daddy about my life.

Ex-Narc takes every opportunity to poke at me, threaten, fight, etc. He clearly is reactive to hearing the good news of my life, my happiness, success, moving on stories. My child is too young to understand & keeping secrets from Narc-Dad is not something to teach a child.

Part of me is like - screw it - be open and honest with child about my joys and excitements and let the cards fall where they may.

As time goes on I get less reactive to his (email mostly, since I almost never see him) attacks. They bother me less. But he's still so vicious and sabotaging.

I wonder how the rest of you in my position handle the info/child situation with these LC Parenting relationships.

Thank you!

Mar 26 - 2PM
ForeverFreedom
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Okay, I got it, I'm in mourning.

Mar 26 - 11AM
Done sourcing
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Having an open/honest

Mar 26 - 12PM (Reply to #7)
ForeverFreedom
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Hi Done Sourcing, Thank you

Mar 27 - 12AM (Reply to #8)
Done sourcing
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He sounds like a complete

Mar 26 - 12PM (Reply to #6)
IncognitoBurrito
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That's good

Mar 25 - 10PM
Marlinmom
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their game is endless devaluing

Mar 26 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
ForeverFreedom
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Marlinmom, Thank you!

Mar 25 - 11AM
Janie53
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Forever

Mar 25 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
ForeverFreedom
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Thanks Janie!